How Long Will You Mourn Your Disappointments?

In Samuel 16:1 God asked Samuel “How long will you mourn for Saul, seeing I have rejected him from reigning over Israel?

What about you: How long will you mourn for……….? Think about it. List all your disappointments according to the year and do the maths.  How long more do you think you need? 

God did not rebuke Samuel for mourning over Saul, but rather for the length of time. Mourning in itself is not bad. Mourning is good for the soul, a time to cry, a time to reflect and a time to heal.

A time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance. Ecclesiastes 3:4, NIV. 

Mourning is a natural process of coming to terms with loss, pain and hurt. Excessive mourning may lead to death; fear of living, loneliness, sickness, mental breakdown and depression.

The goal of this post is not to undermine your pain, hurt and disappointment. I wrote about overcoming disappointments because I’ve overcome many through Christ Jesus who strengthened me. For many years I wore my disappointments as a crutch and shame. I was miserable, in pain, denial and my life was on hold. I don’t wish that on anyone. 

The goal of this post is to make you realize that on the other side of your disappointments there’s healing and freedom.

YOU: “Buky, you don’t understand what they did to me.
ME: You’re right, I don’t. But God does and He wants to help you bury them.

In 1 Samuel 16:2 –  And Samuel said, “How can I go? If Saul hears it, he will kill me.” The fear of what if kept Samuel in mourning. What are you afraid of? What is your what if? 

The Fear of “what if” has kept many locked up in their own self-created prison. Don’t let the fear of “what if” keep you from living and pursuing your dreams.

Lack Of Faith In God.
Disappointments are signs of a lack of faith and trust in God. You might say you love God, but do you really, really trust Him? If you believe Jesus is your personal savior and healer then why not trust Him with your hurt and pain. Take the focus off regrets, what was done to you, and look to Christ for your healing. Don’t you want to be set free? On the other side of your pain and disappointments is your healing.

Misplaced Faith In A Broken World
Our disappointments reveal our misplaced faith, hopes, and expectations in a broken world. We are broken people living in a broken world. Accept that everyone will disappoint you at some point in life. Be Ok with that. Know that you will disappoint everyone eventually. Be ready to forgive quickly, heal and let go.

 

The Past Is Gone and Done
Disappointment isn’t about the past, it’s about the present: What is done in the past is gone. This is about the present, to steal, kill and destroy your life and any hope for the future God planned for you.

Choose Wholeness and Live
Mourn, cry out to God, weep, get some counseling, do whatever it takes for you to heal wholeheartedly. Don’t get stuck in life by dwelling on the past. No one can figure life out and by trying to make sense of everything will make life a living hell.

Sometimes life doesn’t make sense: bad things happen to innocent and kind people. I can’t make sense of the death of an infant, why some couple can have children and abandon them, while others fail in their efforts. 

Don’t try to understand life. Live it! Don’t try to understand love. Move into love. Then you will know – and all that knowing will come out of your experiencing. The more you know, the more you know that much remains to be known. Osho

Who Might You Be?
The past only hurt if we keep revisiting painful memories! We don’t heal because we refuse to forgive and let go of emotional wounds and without them who are we. Who are we without them?

All the apologies in the world will not heal some of us. We’ve become addicted to our diseased past instead of learning from them. We’ve given our disappointments power of attorney rather than giving them over to God. Who are you without your crutches; shame, blame, pain, and hurts? 

A Time To Heal. 

Try Again.
But the Lord said, “Take a heifer with you, and say, ‘I have come to sacrifice to the Lord.’ Then invite Jesse to the sacrifice, and I will show you what you shall do; you shall anoint for Me the one I name to you. 1 Samuel 16:3

God instructed Samuel to try again and this time His way. Take a risk, take a step into the future. Samuel tried SEVEN times before He got the right son, David, who was not present at the time. I love the fact that the bible didn’t say that Samuel got it right at his first attempt.

Before I had my youngest son, Joshua, I had 2 miscarriages. After the second miscarriage, I was afraid that if I conceived again I would be full of fear and not be able to celebrate or enjoy the pregnancy. Yet, again God strengthened me, I had a healthy and joyful pregnancy. If I had not tried again I wouldn’t have my beautiful son and a testimony to encourage others.

Forgive Yourself: The truth is we are the hardest on ourselves. Forgive yourself for being too hard, unloving, unforgiving and overly critical of yourself. Forgive yourself for blaming and hating yourself. Forgive yourself for blaming God and not trusting Him with your fear and pain. Forgive yourself for making others a scapegoat: by blaming them and making yourself a victim. 

Forgive Your Ex: We all have them; Ex-wife, husband, in-laws, fiancé, fiancée, girlfriend & boyfriend. Why stop there? Ex-business partner, employer, ex-best friend, etc.

They’ve hurt us but we’ve learned valuable lessons from them. Let go of every attachment to past pain. Forgive and keep forgiving until you’re no longer in any pain, anger, and regret when you think about them. Stop allowing ghost from your past to steal your present joy.

As long as we hold on to negative emotions, we can’t fully embrace the hope we have in Christ Jesus, our new identity and purpose. Love in spite of rejection. Forgive in spite of past pain. Live joyfully with no regrets.

Prayer:
Dear God, I’m ready to put the past behind me. Lord, forgive me not trusting and accepting the gift of life. Today I choose to forgive myself and others and I embrace your love, grace, and mercy. Thank you, God, for restoring what was broken in my life. Help me to turn my sorrow into joy, my mess into a message. Thank You, Lord, for the hope of a new future. Thank you, my Father, for saving me.

God Is Working Behind The Scenes.

Today we woke up to snow in Houston. Who knew! But seeing the joy and excitement on my children alone is well worth the freezing cold! It’s beginning to look like Christmas in Houston! Yeehaw!

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The heavens declare the glory of God, and the skies announce what his
hands have made. Psalm 19:1, NCV.

 All of God’s creations are evidence that He is at work behind the scenes and we are not aware of his timing.

At times it may seem like God is silent, distant, unreachable, and all our prayers are falling on deaf ears, but his creation bears witness to Him. God is at work behind the scenes and in his time, not ours, He will do that which He has promised.

This much I know: The time is still ticking away. We are still breathing. The sun and moon rise and set daily. The snow falls and melts away. The rain falls and dries up. Every night the stars shine in the sky. The word of God is forever settled in Heaven!

In the meantime, be still, trust Him, praise him and hold on to His promises. As it snowed overnight so shall your expectation, joy, blessing, and favor break forth suddenly in Jesus name. Amen! 

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Everyone Is Not Going In The Same Direction As You.

Are you questioning your direction in life: your path, career, and relationships? Are you tempted to abandon ship, settle and follow the path of least resistant? It’s Ok, we’ve all been there. It’s perfectly normal to re-evaluate your life occasionally.

What is God’s plan for you, your marriage, family, education, children, finances, relationships, and career? What dreams and visions have God put in your heart that won’t let go of you? What ideas has God-given to you to live a different lifestyle apart from the norm? These are the things you must do. That is where you will grow, flourish and shine! That is where you will come alive. 

The path of the righteous is like the morning sun, shining ever brighter till the full light of day. Proverbs 4:18, NIV. 

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Your current state or position may not be dripping in honey right now while it seems like everyone else are in their season. Don’t believe everything you think or see, things are not always as they seem. When I trying to conceive, all I saw were pregnant women everywhere. These days I hardly notice them. 

The Truth

Everyone is not going in the same direction as you. Be OK with that. By sticking to your path and convictions, you’ll stand out from the crowd.

God has an exclusive path for you. Trust Him and follow His direction. There is a path named after you with everything you’ll need for the journey. Faithfulness in doing what God has called you to do is what will lead you to joy, contentment and before Kings.

Avoid Short-cuts

Keeping up with the Joneses, competing, copying and following another person’s path are shortcuts with hollow roads, paved with empty promises, regrets, painful lessons, self-hate, disappointments, and bitterness. 

You won’t go wrong when you stick to God’s plan for you. Even if you make the wrong turn and decisions, God is able to redirect you back. Remember Joseph; despite the obstacles on his path, he overcomes them all and God fulfills His promises. 

Overcome Self-doubt and Fear.

The route to your destiny is through the valley of self-doubt and fear, and may sometimes be lonely. Your path is for you alone and it will take courage in yourself to finish strong.

Don’t Believe the Lies.

That you are behind, time is running out, and you’re too old. Don’t let the enemy distract and talk you out of what is yours.There are no shortcuts to your destiny and any paths which offer an easy route is a deception.

Misery loves company and everyone has an agenda: Don’t allow friends and family to talk you out of God’s plan for your life. 

Finally….

Keep exploring, keeping seeking and continue being faithful by following God’s chosen path for you.

Take your time while walking along your path, confront your fear and doubt your doubts, take in the scenery and learn the lessons. Hold on to the dreams, ideas, and vision; your due season is just around the corner. God has you here at this time for a reason and when you have been found faith, He will bless and reward you.  

You Are Not Called To Do Everything.

As we approach the end of the year and one of the busiest season: Christmas. Don’t take on more than you can handle. Play to your strengths, not to your weaknesses. Everyone has a breaking point. No one is indestructible, take care of yourself.

For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength. Philippians 4:13, NIV. 

At this very moment, you have everything; you are alive and whole. What will be will be, but you can choose who you will be right now. 

I can do all things through Christ, but I’m not called to do everything in the world.

So many places to be, things to do and juggle and so little time. Sometimes we don’t need to be everywhere, we just need to be at home. Sometimes doing nothing other than simply basking in God’s presence and spending time with our loved ones is what we are called to do.  

This past Thanksgiving was the best so far! We did absolutely nothing, apart from hanging out together at home. We cooked together, we laughed and played together and we slept in later than normal. Hands down my favorite thing to do with my family. 

If God has called you to do something, let Him lead you there.
Make time for God, yourself and your loved ones. You are not called to do everything. What God has called you to do, He will lead you to. You are not the one sending yourself, He will make a way for you. 

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Thank You God For Another Day.

God is at work setting things in motion. Even when we can’t see it, we must continue to trust and wait on Him. Be encouraged! Our best days are ahead of us.

Whatever you are going through I want you to keep in mind “God is already there.” He has gone ahead of you to make the crooked places straight. It is well.”

We can easily get caught up in the issues of life and drift away from the ONE we need the most. Make Christ the center of your life, He never drifts away from us. He is our ever-present Savior.

Thank You, God, for another glorious day. There are so many things to be thankful for and if I have a thousand tongues I couldn’t thank you enough. If You never bless me again you have blessed me enough, more than I deserve. Evening and morning and at noon, when I pray and cry aloud, You hear my voice. In You Lord, I hope, I trust and I surrender all. You are my God and King and You reign forever and ever!

Being Disliked and Misunderstood is Ok.

When you embrace God’s chosen path for you, expect to be disliked, misunderstood, judged and sometimes rejected. It’s not personal, it’s life’s rite of passage – a process we must all experience. One day you’ll look back in hindsight with gratitude.

In life, everyone will not like or accept you. You are not meant to be liked and understood by everyone. Be OK with that.

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At The End Of My Life

At the end of my life, I hope I can say I loved more than I was loved, I gave more than I received, I forgave more than I was forgiven, and I leave this world a tad better than I found it.

I belong To God.

I am God’s property, and I belong to Him alone. Knowing Whose I AM is the only reason I’ve made it this far.
“For a season, I forgot who I am and whose I Am. I don’t belong to me. I belong to God!”
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In all my wandering, no matter how far off I’d gone from God, I always find my way back to Him. All roads led to Christ for those who are seeking redemption and grace. 
And you belong to Christ, and Christ belongs to God. 1 Corinthians 3:23 (NCV)
Don’t lose yourself in the midst of this crazy world we must all travel through. Knowing who you are in Christ is what will keep you anchored to God alone and no matter what life throws your way, He will not fail you.

QOTD: You Are More Than A CONQUEROR!

You are MORE THAN A CONQUEROR! From today onwards, think like a conqueror!
Speak like a conqueror! Walk like a conqueror! You are a CONQUEROR! 

Yet in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us.
Romans 8:37, NKJV.

God Will Never Give Up On You.

No matter how hard you fight against the will of God, and how long it takes, God will never give up on you. Don’t ever give up on yourself!  

I cannot take credit for the woman that I am today. I resisted her,
but God never gave up on me.
 

“Call to me and I will answer you, and will tell you great and hidden things that you have not known.” Jeremiah‬ ‭33:3‬ ‭ESV‬‬.

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QOTD: Call On Jesus.

Before you reach for the phone, pick up your bible. Before you call a friend, call on Jesus. In every season, Jesus Christ is truly the only friend who sticks closer than a brother.

In every season call on Jesus

Seen. Heard. Loved.

Everyone you meet wants to be seen, heard and loved. Loving someone does not mean you are in agreement with them. Love is a commandment, not an option.

The greatest need in the world is not money: It’s love! To love and be loved in return is what everyone longs for. The Majority of the world’s problem can be traced back to not being seen, heard and loved. After many years of being ignored, it can only turn a person into acts of hatred. You can’t give what you don’t have. A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in him, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in him. Matthew 12:35, NIV. Continue reading

Pray For One Another.

Dear Friends, Let us continue to pray for one another. Someone can use your prayers today. Prayer works! Right now God has placed a person in your heart, be obedience & engage heaven. Stand in the gap and intercede, lives will be transformed. Prayer works!  God still hears and answers prayers. Let us pray.

Before they call I will answer; while they are yet speaking I will hear. Isaiah 65:24, ESV. 

When Job prayed for his friends God answered and blessed Job in return. I’m praying for supernatural healing, the sick will be made whole, the deaf will hear, blind will see and any afflicted among you shall be delivered in Jesus name. Continue reading

It’s Time To Come Out From Hiding.

It’s time to come out from among them and stop hiding behind things that keep us living in sin bondage and a life less than God’s best, stepping into the Light, Truth, Sonship, Purpose, and Destiny.

Dear Friends, Nobody is coming to rescue you. No one is coming to save you. Sorry to burst your bubble single ladies: Prince Charming is not coming on a white horse to rescue you. And to my married sisters: Two lost people cannot become whole and one just because they put a ring on it. And my Brother, you know what time it is: It is time for you to step into your rightful place and divine calling. The world is waiting, and eternity is waiting for you to be revealed.

Jeremiah 23:24 (NIV) “Can anyone hide in the secret places so that I cannot see him?” declares the Lord. “Do I not fill heaven and earth?” declares the Lord.  Continue reading

Beyond Blessed

You are blessed beyond measure, going out and coming in. Has the Lord been Good to you? Tell somebody, tell everyone, scream it from the mountaintop that God is good and His love endures forever! Amen!

Blessed shall you be when you come in, and blessed shall you be when you go out.
Deuteronomy 28:6

What Jesus did for you and me is a big DEAL. I can’t and won’t keep it to myself. If it makes someone uneasy or un-friend me that is a little price to pay. Jesus paid with His life. Are you kidding me!

beyond-blessedEven on your worst days, you are beyond blessed. 

Your worst days are never so bad that you are beyond the reach of God’s grace.bAnd your best days are never so good that you are beyond the need of God’s grace. – Jerry Bridges.

Reminding ourselves of our blessings leads to a grateful heart and a thankful spirit. Be grateful for where you are and what you have: many people will gladly trade places with you in a jiffy!.

Wishing everyone a blessed week ahead! 

God Favors The Bold.

Don’t be afraid to stand up for your beliefs, even if it means standing alone. It is better to speak up against the majority than to live with the regret of being a silent minority. Perhaps you may save a soul.

I expect and hope that I will not fail Christ in anything but that I will have the courage now,
as always, to show the greatness of Christ in my life here on earth, whether I live or die.
Philippians 1:20, NCV.

True faith in God will cause you to walk alone. Abram left his home for an unknown future. Don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone in faith. God favors the bold and He will not fail you.

You Will Never Regret Doing Good.

Even when we’re falling apart on the inside, we can still appear strong for others. Someone needs your strength today, be courageous. A little help, a word of encouragement can go a long way and give hope to others.

If anyone, then, knows the good they ought to do and doesn’t do it, it is sin for them.
James 4:17

There is never a wrong time to do the right thing. Even if no one notices or appreciates your kindness and good deeds; God sees and rewards accordingly. You will never regret doing good.

The one who blesses others is abundantly blessed; those who help others are helped. Proverbs 11:25 

When you do things, do not let selfishness or pride be your guide. Instead, be humble and give more honor to others than to yourselves. Do not be interested only in your own life, but be interested in the lives of others. Philippians 2:3-4, NCV.

Dear God, Teach us how to be caring and sensitive toward the needs of others. May your love be our only motive, and never driven by selfish gain and ambition. May all the glory belong to God alone. Amen!

QOTD: The Lord Is Your Constant Companion.

Dear Friends,
The Lord is your constant companion. Seasons and friends may come and go, but The Lord is forever with you. He is there with you in your darkest hours, never once leaving your side.

Have a blessed day!

Those who know Your name will trust in You, for You, Lord have never forsaken those who seek You.
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