These are helpful tips to help you get through those tough times while you wait on God for your precious babies.
Please feel free to add to these lists as we learn and grow together.
Whether you chose to go thru the IVF, Natural or Adoption route you still need God’s guidance and agreement with your husband.
Children are a blessing and they will bring you a lot of joy and sleepless nights, lol.
They are not the source of happiness and they do not solve problems or a hectic lifestyle, they add to it.
It is very important to work on your marriage before you bring children into it as they can compound the problems you are ignoring.
Get right with God today, put your past behind you and start a brand new day.
Husband and wife must study the Word and pray together daily if possible
You should attend the same church together, not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together.
The local church is very important in our walk with God.
Come together regularly and enjoy each other while trying to conceive. Once those babies get here you might not have much time.
Find a prayer partner; surround yourself with people that can pray. Not everyone can truly pray for/with you or stay the course.
Dig deep in the scripture and find the scriptures that speak to you. Stand on the word of God.
Agree with your husband in prayer; it’s vital to your prayers being answered. God is a God of order. He honors authority and submission. Men are not just sperm donor but they play a very important role as watchmen and gate-keepers of the home.
Husbands lay hands on your wife’s stomach and pray for her.
Husbands – you are her covering; protect her and don’t let your family or friends talk to her inappropriately regarding her not being pregnant yet.
Husbands – please be more sensitive to your wives around this time. When she is crying is not the time to be logical or have a frank conversation. Just be there to listen and reassure her that all is well.
Wives let us not forget that our husbands are hurting too, they don’t show it but they feel our pain and are struggling that they can’t fix this. They are the silent warriors that are often pushed to the side. Don’t forget to minister to him too.
Walk in love with everyone, I know it is hard. I had to forgive those I didn’t want to forgive, but when I think of what I will be depriving myself because of un-forgiveness? There was no comparison.
If someone gets under your skin too much to the extent they are affecting your love walk. Please reduce your exposure to them until you are strong enough to deal with it.
Avoid conflict between yourselves; remember you are both on the same side. Learn to walk away from strife and be quick to forgive.
Keep yourself healthy, not just your weight but your spirit being. Avoid feeding yourself junk and make time for spiritual food that nourishes far better.
Occupy yourself with happy thought and practice laughter frequently e.g. watch comedy movies
Finish your education – It is a lot to juggle if you are studying, working and being a parent. Try to complete your education ASAP. It is doable but it can be also stressful.
Savings – Use this time wisely to have a healthy bank account, you sure will need it. Having a first child can turn you into a fashionista. You have waited this long for a child, who cares about the cost? You will have to keep your head cool and not spend it all at once.
Travel – If you can afford it take time off and enjoy each other, trying for a baby can be stressful. Take mini vacations if you can’t afford to be away too long. Our first child was conceived while we were on a week break to Colorado. We love Colorado!!!
Write a book about all of your experiences; good and bad. Keep a documentary account of it, never trust your memory. I wished i started blogging way back when I was dealing with mine.
Pay off your debt – Children are very very expensive. You are going to need dosh! Pay off your car notes, credit cards and all debts with high interest rate.
Lose weight and stay healthy – The less weight you are carrying around the better for your state of mind.
Transition to a new career – This is the perfect time to transition to a new career, not when the baby is here. It might just be the distraction you need. Adey transitioned to a new career so that he can be around more, you must be willing to pay the price.
Study the Word now – Once those babies arrives, huh! It is a different ball game, trust me. Can you imagined; now that we have 2 children it is almost a struggle for me to have my regular time with the Lord? God forbid that now that we are blessed we ignored the One who blessed us!!
Enjoy your partner – Enjoy this time now, hang out with your lover! Adey and I are always trying to fit time for ourselves now, it can be a lot of work. Babysitters are becoming our new “bestfriend”.
Learn a new hobby or craft – I took up bead making and sewing, i was absolutely crappy at them both, lol. I still have my sewing machine to remind me today!
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