Its My Day.

It’s my birthday today and I feel younger than ever! I woke up to text messages from my siblings and friends, how nice and thoughtful.

I have everything I’ve wanted; God’s in our lives, Adey, the children, being pregnant and absolute joy and peace in my life. Money can’t buy any of those things.

I was serenaded with a special rendition of “happy birthday mom’’. Hahah how sweet, well done guys! I got presents too; a Balenciaga perfume and a house slipper. I can’t decide which one I love the most. I didn’t own a house slipper I usually wear Adey’s. My perfume smells lovely, thank you babe.

Just about 7 years ago, I was living in London, even though I liked having a career and a portfolio of properties that generates income for me on the side. I wanted more that money didn’t give me; I wanted my own family and I honestly didn’t think I could have that before I turned 40 yrs old. I am not yet 40 but getting closer to it.

The Life You Desire

I have been running a race against myself ever since; I didn’t want what anyone else had. I made a simple list of what I wanted and I started competing with myself.


My simple list comprises of:

1 – Husband, 2 – Children, 3 – Relocation to America, 4 – A deeper walk with God. 5 – Discovering my passion, 6 – Having a better understanding about men and godly marriage.


As I reflect back on the past 7 yrs – The lines have fallen for me in pleasant places; yes, I have a good heritage (Psalm 16:6). Not having a clear goals and aspirations will always lead to many stumbling blocks along the way that will detain you from ever having anything worthy.

I am also reminded of “The race is not to the swift, nor the battle to the strong, neither yet bread to the wise, nor yet riches to men of understanding, nor yet favor to men of skill; but time and chance happeneth to them all. (Eccl 9:11)

I have shared my journey to marriage thru get desperate with God and get married. My journey to motherhood thru these post part 1 and part 2 . I have also shared with you my wonderful husband and best friend Adey.

In each of these posts I mentioned countless times that God played the major role, and if not for Him none of it will come together. My journey with God is ongoing till I get to see His face and join the 24 elders in singing Holy, Holy, Holy. Attending All Nations School of Ministry helped greatly too

In a previous post I talked about the importance of being prepared for a marriage and having a better understanding of men. How do you learn about men?

I learn from married women who have successful marriages, I also learn by reading books written by men on marriages. These women didn’t hold back, they were honest and they shared the good, bad and ugly of marriage with me. They told me there will be not so good times but it is ok because every marriage will be tested.

The best mentor on marriage so far for me was living with my sister dearest for 3 months. I watched and learn from a real life couple, I saw how they juggle their marriage, children and ministry.

It was the best 3 months ever; it changed my unrealistic opinions and any romantic notions I had about marriage. It prepared me for what was to come and I was better prepared than ever before.

In a future post I will discuss the importance of discovering your passion early in life if possible. While a lot of people know what their passion is; I didn’t know for a long time. It kind of affected me in a way going thru life not finding satisfaction in the works of my hands. So I focused on pursuing money instead until I discovered what I wanted to do.

I really believe that discovering your passion can also help guide your decision for a life partner. Not anyone is capable of walking along with you on this journey of life.

So here I am to tell you today that you also can have the life you desire, one step at a time. It will take determination, honesty, being focused, a lot of patience, prayer and perseverance, mentors along the way and knowing that you deserved the best God wants for you.

Having the life you desire doesn’t mean financial riches; it’s about having what is important to you and what will bring you joy and peace.

I wished I did this earlier in my life but I am happy I had this experiences and I wont change it for any thing. Looking back now it looks easy and simple, it wasn’t when I was going thru it. I had to stop having pity parties; I stopped faking it and started facing the real and ugly truth about me. I had to learn a different way of dealing with obstacles and learning to love me.

The journey is not over or complete, but I am finally happy and loving being Buky. I have what is important to me and I am grateful to God.

So my question to you is – are you happy where you are today? What will it take to get you there?

Why not start today with a simple list of your own and take it one day at a time. With God on your side who can dare be against you!

Have a great weekend; you bet that I am going to have a blast today and always.

About Buky

Buky is a ''Desperado after God". She is married to Adey and together they are raising 3 amazing children. She is a natural encourager & she loves to share practical experiences with others. She enjoys writing, reading, dabbling in stock trading, hanging out with friends and serving the body of Christ.

45 Comments

  1. Yetunde Oluwasegun

    Happy Birthday from the Oluwaseguns.
    May the Lord beautify you and your family this year.

  2. Happy birthday and its nice to know you are having fun being a mother and a wife. Thank you for your encouragement, that with God on one's side one can achieve anything.

  3. Happy Birthday!
    'Teach us to number our days aright, that we may gain a heart of wisdom'. Ps 90:12
    This is my prayer for you!
    Stay Blessed!

  4. Buky, I wish you a very happy birthday. Long life and more of God's abundant blessings. Have a happy day (I've just tried your number a couple of times by the way).

    Stay blessed.

  5. Happy Birthday Buky:)!! Wishing you many many many more happy, peaceful, joyful and blissful years by God's grace- Amen!

    May the peace of God ever reign in your life and your home – Amen. Happy Birthday:)! God bless!

    Much Love,

    Bomi

  6. Have a Blessed Birthday!
    I really enjoy your blog, keep up the good work.

  7. Happy b-day love.

  8. Isnt' HE faithful???? Happy Day, love!

  9. happy birthday to you…you've been a blessing, and I'm genuinely happy the way things r for u…God bless u.

  10. Happy Birthday!May the Good Lord shower you with many blessings!

  11. Daughter of Zion aka

    Happy Birthday BUKY (Awesomeness woman of KING)

    I Pray as you step into a new age, you'll step into greater unlimited, timeless favour, courage, wisdom, love, kindness, compassion in GOD. He that kept you this far will not leave you but will empower you greatly and as you find yourself doing his will. He will forever grant you peace, joy, love, happiness, protection etc that money cannot buy.

    I PRAY you will continue to be a salt to the earth and light to the world. NO WEAPONS FORMED AGAINST YOU NOR YOUR FAMILY SHALL PROSPER. May you grow in divine wisdom in becoming more and more of a virtuous woman of God. You will continue to be an inspiration to yourself, your generations, friends, family, co-workers, enemies, including this generations and the next to come until JESUS comes. When he comes you will be found worthy in his presence. AMEN. I am sure you had a blast…. come and let us know how it was…

  12. may Jesus christ of Nazareth never take away ur joy n happiness embeded in ur family now n forevermore. Amen. Happy birthday, longlife n prosperity.

  13. Happy Birthday to you! It must be wonderful having a January birthday. It's a great way to start a new year!

  14. Happy birthday Buky. Wishing more of God's blessings upon your life.

    Everytime i read your blog i am encouraged -i keep coming back to read more, or read them over again…

    Thank you for sharing your wonderful testimonies with us.

    God bless.

  15. haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa, how come i missed your birthday , i spoke with you on Friday , and you didn't mention it, am sorry for not catching it on facebook. This new year , God will in His mercy will make all things beautiful for you, sista mi , you've not seen anything yet , God has just started with you , this new year , more grace to you , He has your back , your family is under covenant security.
    Happy Birthday to you.

  16. Happy Birthday WOG 🙂
    may you be all God wants you to be this year in Jesus name, Amen.

  17. The Oluwaseguns, thank you, much appreciation. How is life in MD? Happy new year to you and yours. May God bless you.

  18. Ibifiri, Thank you and Wishing you a happy new year like no other.

  19. Hello Beautiful, Thank you and a BIG AMEN. This is your year of greatness. Watch out for the surprise real soon!!!

  20. Thanks Femi, Yes I saw your missed called. But i got your text, cheers mate! Regards to the entire family from ours to yours.

  21. Bomi, My fellow sister in the Lord and mentor. Thank you for your prayers and wishes. May God continue to strengthen you as you draw women and men to His name, IJN Amen.

  22. Armelle, Thank you for your encouragement, let us run with the vision this year and do great. Have a blessed week.

  23. Cyrus, Thank you and cant wait to meet you in person. Watch out you never know we might visit your side. We've always talked of visiting Bishop Tudor Bismark church in the future.

  24. She, thanks a bunch for the phone call and singing to me, A real life superstar that you are. with the voice of an angel to match. Love ya!

  25. Anoda Phase, Thanks for the wishes and I know you meant every word too. Have a blessed week.

  26. Marhoro25, Thanks and May God bless you in return. Prov 11:25 The one who blesses others is abundantly blessed;

  27. DOZ – Thank you and your are truly your name Daughter of Zion indeed. My prayer warrior and intercessor, you are a walking prayer.

    A Big AMEN to all your prayers and so shall it be in Jesus name.

    I have a great day, a day off from all my mommy duties. I didnt do jack and it was fun just being spoilt rotten and Daddy day care was in full operation.

    It was a perfect day and I couldnt asked for anything different.

    I will catch up with you on skype soon. Have a blessed week ahead.

  28. Tunde, Thank you and Amen. How are you and the family, Happy New year to you all. My regards to everyone. I hope we get to talk soon. Stay blessed my brother.

  29. Y-A-B, Happy new year to you and yes its great having a birthday in January. It allows me to reflect and start the year strong. I pray that this year will be crown with greatness for you too.

  30. Shole, Thanks and Amen. I am blessed to you as part of Bukville, you dont know how much your kind words and encouragement mean to me.

    I pray that this year we shall continue to lift up each other in Jesus name. Thanks again and have a blessed week.

  31. Tolu, Yes we chatted so much on Friday about many important stuffs, Lol. My bad for not bringing it up. Thank you and Amen. I trust you had a great weekend too, i had a great birthday of just being treated like a queen.

    I will look our for you on messenger and gist more. Stay hungry and He will fill you with up with Living waters, Amen.

  32. Tolu the Poet – Thank you and Amen. Congrats on your latest announcement.

  33. happy happy birthday bukky. May Gods blessings be with you .

  34. Mbabazi, Thanks and Amen. How are you doing, I trust it is well with you.

  35. Happy Birthday!

    The best is yet to come, God isn't done with you yet!

    You're such an inspiration!!!

  36. Hi Blessing, Thanks and Amen. So I discovered today that we both shared the same birthday, hmmm. Happy belated birthday to you, wishing you all of God's best in 2011 and beyond. Thanks you and have a blessed week ahead.

  37. 40 – x 'tuales' to u!
    May ur days be long…& may they continually make sense!

  38. Happy Belated Birthday, Bukky.

    Wishing you a wonder-filled year and all the joy your heart can hold.

    Keep Shinning!

  39. Daughter of ZION aka

    lol :))) prayer warrior here I am come oohh lool…. It is the holy spirit… Yay skype soon ok.. Am glad u had a fabulous time. u deserve it,.. yummy mama awesomness of God, jewel of her crown(husband)…

  40. WE – Wow, love that prayer, gotta say a BIG AMEN. Have a great weekend

  41. Tolu, Thanks and Amen. How and where have you been? Hope you are not working to hard girlfriend. Let's catch up soon! Oh happy new year to you lady!

  42. Thank you all for all your prayers and well wishes. The best is yet to come for us all this year. Just imagine what can happen when you make a simple list and by the end of the year, you look back and see God's faithfulness!!

    COMMENTS ARE NOW CLOSED FOR THIS POST. THANK YOU ALL.

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