The No.2 Lesson I learned from 2011 – To always trust my instincts.
Always Trust Your Instincts is No.3 on the 12 Ways You Can Kick Start The New You In 2012
Last year I was faced with a decision whether I should or should not. My instinct was shouting NO NO NO. I have a pretty good instinct and in the past it has helped guide me in the right direction.
I usually don’t ignore my instincts, for the best part I follow my instinct. On this particular occasion I didn’t and I had to live with the consequences of not being true to myself.
When we are faced with serious life decisions we often have to consider how it will affect other people in our lives. Some decisions are far easier to make than others.
I decided to go against my gut feelings based on “it won’t look good and it doesn’t speak well of us”. The outcome was far worst than what I was trying to avoid. Going with the statue quo eventually leads to series of bad events.
I dropped the ball and ignored my instincts but I am not crying over spilled milk. As painful as the outcome of my decision, I actually learned a lot of very valuable lessons.
I’ve learned that I should always trust my instincts
I learned that even when making the right decision, it could still be painful.
I’ve learned that I can’t expect people to always see my point of view immediately
I’ve learned that I don’t want to win the popularity contest.
I’ve learned that what I was trying to avoid would sometimes still happen
I have learned that I can’t let others decide my path while I sit on the sidelines pointing fingers and placing blame
I’ve learned to not be too quick at judging other since I have not walked in their shoes.
I’ve learned that being a people pleaser doesn’t make one happy
I’ve learned to cherish my peace, joy and especially guard my heart.
I’ve learned to protect my home and whom I let into my space.
I’ve learned when I allow people with negative energy and vibes into my space it brings out the worst in me.
I’ve learned that I must stick to my chosen path regardless of what anyone does.
I learned that access to me is a privilege and not a right.
I have learned to stop doing things out of obligation or guilt but out of a good conscience.
I’ve learned that some people are best loved from a distance until they show they can love without motives.
I have learned to not confuse forgiveness for trust. I will always forgive but I may not trust the same person again.
Things just don’t happen, they happen for a reason. There are lessons to be learnt from negative situations. You can turn it round for your own good. Stop focusing on the “whys” but on what can I learn from this event?
Own your decision, own your world.
Read about the No.1 lesson I’ve learned in 2011 here.