Day 3 – Thankful For Favor

This year alone I have seen God’s favor in every area of our life. Lord, you have favored us the most this year.

Your favor also attracts some enemies. Then I remember Joseph and David the king of Israel, I rejoice for I am in good company.

I can do nothing of myself without God and there is nothing I have done that makes me warrant the level of favor He has bestowed on us as a family.

I know I’m nothing without God. I am grateful and will never forget all of Your faithfulness towards us.

This year has not been without ups and downs. To sum it all up, it’s the best year of our life. I have been blessed going in and out. I am a wonder to myself and those around me.

Lord, You have embarrassed us with your love, blessings, and mercy. Just when I think you have done too much, you continue to bombard us with more.

Thou shalt arise, and have mercy upon Zion: for the time to favour her, yea, the set time, is come. (Psalm 102:13)

Question ~ Has the Lord been good to you?

November: A Month Of Giving Thanks!

Day 2 – Thankful For Good Health

Today I am thankful to God for my health and that of my entire family. Health is wealth and without good health, life is a constant struggle and a challenge.

This year especially I have learned to have a greater appreciation for my health. In the past, I had taken my health for granted. I just assumed that it would always be there for me.

Since having Joshua in March 2011, I have experienced and dealt with chronic fatigue. For months I battled with persistent tiredness. While I put it down to being a new mom again, it was a joy stealer.

For the first four months of Joshua being born it was a real battle. Just getting through a day was harder for me as I struggled with being a mom and wife. It took its toll on my mind, as the doctor could not find anything physically wrong with me.

By the fifth month, I was done with being tired and just wanted to live again. Live life fully without being tired and to be able to enjoy life as I’d done in the past.

It took a rededication to prayer and a daily dose of Holy Communion to restore my whole health back. Divine health is our covenant right

So I’m especially grateful to God for total restoration. Allowing me to be the Mom and Wife He intended for me to be.

Our entire family is healthy; we are fruitful and multiplying in every facet of life. Thank you God for restoring my health and blessing us wholeheartedly

Beloved, I wish above all things that you may prosper and be in health, even as your soul prospers. (3 John 1:2)

How about you, are you thankful for your health?

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November: A Month Of Giving Thanks!

Day 1 – Thankful For Unanswered Prayers


November is the month when we as Americans celebrate the Thanksgiving holiday.
Thanksgiving is a big celebration in America and I am starting Day 1 of Thankfulness
today. I hope you will join me for the next 30 days. Let us be thankful together. I look
forward to all your comments on why you are thankful.


Day 1: Thankful For Unanswered Prayers.

It’s only natural to be thankful for answered prayers. We all rejoice when our prayers are answered. It feels great when I can tick off another answered prayer request on my list.

There has been many times also that some of my prayers have gone unanswered and I often wondered what went wrong? With patience and time, the reason is revealed later. Many times I have thanked God for unanswered prayers. In time, He has revealed to me that some of my prayers are out of my selfish desires and they are dangerous to my life.

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Common Mistakes Single Women Make Before Marriage

There are common mistakes we make before marriage that have consequences to our future happiness. Ignorance is not bliss and it’s very important to get the foundation right.

A building is only as strong as its foundation. So it stands to reason that a marriage that is built on shaky ground will soon start to show cracks. A right foundation sets the pace for a successful home. By wisdom is a house built and by understanding it is established (Prov. 24:3-4)
Starting off on the right foundation can make the difference to your future marriage. Success in marriage starts before a couple enters into engagement.  When preparation meets opportunity it’s a good formula for success.

For a lasting marriage, this means being grounded first and foremost in a life lived for Christ. 
 Unless the LORD builds the house, they labor in vain that build it: unless the LORD keeps the city, the watchman wakes, but in vain (Ps 127:1)

So let’s talk about the common mistakes women make before marriage.

Co-Habitation
Do not move in with a man you are not married to – ever heard the expression of “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?”

Don’t let a man move in with you – A man who wants to marry you should at least be able to lease an apartment when he is ready for marriage. Stop trying to be the man, let the man be the man. This may come back to haunt you later on.

Not Knowing Who You Are
Getting to know who you set the foundation which you can build your core values and life goals upon.  How can anyone truly know who you are if you are constantly evolving from multiple personalities? Having a sense of self; an identity helps in the process of attracting and elimination. Not know who you are will likely lead to settling for the wrong person, getting stuck in an unhappy marriage, and ultimately heading for the divorce court. 

Invest In Yourself
Even if you plan on being a SAHM, it is wise to have a career, a skill, a trade, something to fall back on. Life can be challenging and you may find the roles reverse later on and you may have to support your family.

The Pregnancy Trap
Having a child out-of-wedlock doesn’t guarantee that he will marry you. You can’t force a man to love you and he will eventually abandon you and the baby. While it may work initially, it won’t last and secretly he will despise you.

Sex Before Marriage
Dare to be different and let him wait. Don’t give it all away too soon. Even more so for those that are divorced and single parents.  It is God’s desire that sex should be practiced only in marriage. A man who loves God will wait and honor you.

Not Meeting The In-laws Beforehand.
Get to know your in-laws before you marry. You will be amazed by the information you may pick up by meeting them beforehand, which may help with your final decision.

With families living on different continents, this may be difficult. Make the trip if you can or spend some time on the phone with them.  Skype anyone?

Failure to Discuss Family’s Medical History
Any medical concerns and family history should be discussed before things get serious and you say I do. Don’t leave it to chance; it’s wrong and deceptive. This point alone may either seal or break the deal in choosing the right person to weather the storm of life with you.

Not Financially Secured
Marrying a man to improve your financial status is not marriage, its a Not knowing Make sure you are financially compatible. You may love each other, but are you marrying a spender or a saver?

Get Tested
Getting a blood test is essential especially for those of African descent. Sickle Cell is a big issue that cannot be ignored.  Get tested for STDs before you say “I do”. You don’t know where your partner has been. Most times they are not even aware that they have anything themselves.

Meet The Friends
Let your friends meet who you are dating before you get too serious. Your friends know you better and can serve as the voice of truth when you are infatuated.  You will be amazed what your friends can pick up on in just one sitting with him.

I Dethrone Myself

We are often the biggest obstacles to achieving our dreams and goals. As I reflect on my life, the struggles and many poor choices I made,  I know that I have contributed to some of the set backs I had experienced.

In all honesty, I may have given the devil too much credit.  The biggest obstacle in my way was staring back in the mirror, ME!

With time comes maturity, wisdom and acceptance. It’s easier for me to admit it to myself now. I believe some of my actions were not good; although my intentions may have been.  Yet the Bible talks about the heart, “The heart is more deceitful than all else and is desperately sick; who can understand it?” Jeremiah.17:9, NASB.

 

Wrong thinking can take us to hell and back. Wrong thinking can be ideas and misconceptions we believe. Many have missed their destiny because of wrong thinking that they believed was right thinking at the time.

Our world is shaped by our thoughts whether they are right or wrong. Our thoughts have creative power, For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he – Proverbs. 23:7, KJB.

Even though I am part of the Royal family of God and co-creator with Him, I cannot take the place of the King of kings and Lord of lords.  I must give up the throne and take my rightful place at His feet.

I dethrone myself. I relinquish power to You
I surrender my life to You God, take your rightful place on your throne.
Rule and reign over every aspect of my life
Your throne is eternal.

You, O LORD, rule forever; Your throne is from generation to generation. (Lamentations 5:19 NASM)

The Journey Continues

We are all on a journey; life is a journey. We are all at different stages in our journey. Your journey, your life experiences, hiccups and frustration that you and I have experienced are not a coincidence. They are all part of the process, the process is not always going to be easy or fun but it is needed for our personal growth.

You have come this far and you can’t give up now. You are not alone on the journey; there were others before you and more coming behind you. We are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses (Heb 12:1)

Sometime it feels like you haven’t made any progress. Thank God for those in our lives that are so quick to remind us “you haven’t changed one bit”. What would you do without the critics?

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Singles Talk: Beware of Counterfeit

Counterfeit means fake, imitation.  Some fakes are very, very good; but it can never be an original.  If you don’t know what an original looks like then you are more likely to buy into a counterfeit.

The counterfeit I am talking about is the one most women falls for when they are waiting for “the one”.

Ladies, the waiting time is a time to learn and to seek God for His plan for your life. This time is very precious and you must be very careful not to jump into a relationship out of desperation.

Not every man can embark on this life journey with you. It will take someone special and unique. If that is the case, then you deserve to take the time and chose wisely.

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Don’t Hate Your Critics

Everyone of us has one or two; they are called the critics. They seat in judgment of you, they are the judge and jury.

I’m no different from most people; I don’t like being criticized. Overtime I’ve learnt how to better deal with it now than in the past. Some criticism are good, especially if the source is credible.

Where can you find these people? They are everywhere–in your church, at work and especially within your family.

I have come to accept that as lovable as I think I am, not everyone will like me. That is all right, it’s important that I love myself and not allow others opinion to define me.    People opinions are subjective.

It’s just too easy to dislike your critics because they criticize you. You can’t go through life only hearing what you want to hear, you won’t grow in wisdom and maturity.

“If you have no critics you’ll likely have no success.” – Malcolm X

Critics are a very important part of your journey. You will not make it without them. They will help you get to your destination faster through their negative criticism; albeit painful.

You will not believe how much criticism I’ve received since I started blogging. Usually they are from someone “anonymous” and very few to my face. One of the rules I live by is “let’s agree to disagree”
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Who Is On Your Dream Team?

Have you heard the saying “No Man Is An Island’?

I recently took a break from blogging and one of the lessons I learned on my break is to build my “Dream Team”.

Even though I didn’t realize it, I was trying to do everything by myself and it was killing my body. As a new mom of 3, I found myself really struggling this time around. I have never felt this lethargic before in my life. I did consider maybe I was suffering from some sort of depression or hormonal imbalance.

It was just my body telling me to take time out and learn to ask for help. I have come to realize that I need a team of people to help me function effectively.

The idea of building a support team is nothing new to those in the corporate world and celebrities but to SAHM, working moms, singles or college students we don’t think of ourselves as needing a “Dream Team”.

You already have a team whether you acknowledge it or not. These are people you are paying for services rendered such as your Doctor, counselor, dentist, Nanny and Life Coach etc.

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Summer Blog Break

 I will be taking time off from blogging.

 Lately, I have been struggling trying to  juggle too many things at the same  time.

Luke 10:41 ~ Martha, Martha,” the Lord  answered, “you are worried and upset about    many things.

~ 42 ~ but only one thing is needed. Mary  has chosen what is better, and it will not be  taken away from her.”

 If you are looking for me, I will be on  my knees with the lover of my soul in  the secret place of the most High God.  

Ps 91:1 ~ He that dwells in the secret place  of the most High shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty.

I am thirsty for the living waters, my soul pants for the Lord.

Isa55:1 ~ Come, all you who are thirsty, come to the waters; and you who have no money, come, buy and eat! Come, buy wine and milk without money and without cost.

2Chro 7:14 ~ if my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then will I hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and will heal their land.

 

See you next month.

The Painful Truth About Divorce

Divorce is a devourer, meaning a curse and a destroyer. Two people who were once committed to building up a happy home are now jointly passionate about destroying all their hard work together.

The pain that comes from being divorced personally for me I cannot put into words. There are 2 witnesses to that kind of pain, God and the walls of your house.

Only God truly knows the depth of pain caused by divorce. If the walls could speak in homes all over the world where couples hide and cry in secret but yet presenting an “I’m ok” face to the world.

Wedding can be expensive and it is often our focus but divorce is very costly. The currencies are different though. When we are planning a wedding we usually have a budget for it but you cannot budget for the pain you will experience when going thru the awful experience of divorce.

“Marriages come and go, but divorce is forever. by Nora Ephron

You can easily pay off  debt accumulated from a lavish wedding by consolidating your debt, but from a divorce you cannot. The price you pay with is your self-esteem, shame, guilt, pride, your health, your mental state of mind, your friendships, your credit rating and FICO score, the respect from your children, your reputation, your relationship with God, broken family, depression, your future marriage, etc.

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Why You Must Deal With The Past

There are many reasons to deal with the past, below are 10 good reasons to confront the and be done with it.

This is a follow-up post to The Past – Dealing With The Past

1. It will always be brought up by the enemy/friends – It will be used against you and you need to be ready and be prepared for it. Expect it and it won’t surprise you when mud is being thrown at you but guess what, it won’t stick because you had taken the time to deal with it.

2. Learn and Grow – Learning from our past mistakes prepares us for a better future. Except you are prepared to be honest with yourself and take the time to learn the painful lesson now. You are most likely to repeat them again. Don’t pay the price twice.

3. Humility – If you truly learn from your painful past experiences then you are certainly full of humility. Those that are holier than thou are full of pride and arrogance. Pride leads to a fall but God lifts up the humble.

4. Help others – Out of your painful past experiences healing can come to others. If one life is touched by your painful experience then your job is done. I hate divorce with a passion and I pray that others can learn thru my experience and never had to go thru it.

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Are You Still Faking It?

I am not ashamed to admit that I faked my life for a while and I almost lost myself in the process.

It is far easier to be authentic than being a fake. Back then, I never know who I’m going to become today or tomorrow. At the time, I believed that most people were faking it too. How coo-coo (crazy) was that. I was secretly afraid that men in white clothes might come and take me to go join my friends in the crazy house. It was that bad, no joking now folks.

We are shaped by our belief system, whether its wrong or right belief it shapes our view of the world we live in.

If you knew me back then- some years ago, then you would have met Ms Fake-Myself-Crazy-Buky. My life was not going in the direction I liked, so I faked it. I faked happiness, joy, I faked my life isn’t missing anything. I don’t need God, certainly not man of all creatures. I am “miss super strong” I can do it by myself.

Even though on the inside, my world was crumbling gradually. I wake up daily and put on my game face. All dressed up wearing my “power suit” from Next, lovely shoes and a killer handbag to match. I’d tell myself every morning “ITS SHOW TIME BABY”. The street of London was my runway, I was strutting my way to work and back still faking it.

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Mind Your Own Business

The year was 2000, I was a member of Kingsway International Christian Centre (KICC) London. The Senior pastor Matthew Ashimolowo was preaching, it was a new year service and his message totally changed my outlook and set me on a different course for the rest of the year. I can’t remember exactly what the title of the sermon was but it was along the line “Mind Your Business”.

It was more like a smack down than a sermon that day. He continued to hammer on the fact that many of us would not achieve what we set out to in 2000 because we are busy-bodies and wont mind our own business, always sticking our noses where it is not wanted, always giving advice when we wont heed the same advice for ourselves.

The moment he said “giving advice to others but not using the same advice for yourself”. Boy did it strike a chord in me, its kind off like a doctor giving out healthy advice to patients but is overweight.  At the time, that kind of sums me up. I was dishing out advise that I was not applying to my own life.

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Hello Blogsville

Hello Everyone

It’s been a little while. I am returning from my self-imposed maternity leave.

So here is the 411 from mommy-land, adjusting to life as a mother of 3 is no joking matter. The past few weeks flew by so fast I am left wondering what has been happening in the real world?

Under normal circumstances I would have been glued to the TV watching the royal wedding. I got to see some of it but not much. Where was I when President Obama announced the death of Osama? I was snoozing happily on the sofa after Joshua finally allowed me to put him down.  It didn’t last long before Joshua woke me up again at midnight that is when I found out about Osama.

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A Mother’s Day Prayer

Wishing you a Happy Mother’s Day. I hope this prayers blesses you as much as I was on receiving them.

Below are collections of prayers sent to me on Mother’s Day and I am passing them forward to you all.

Beloved O daughter of Zion, you are like a nursing mother who cares for her own children. You will be joyful mothers and your children will be joyful children. You are blessed forever.

No one could ever take your place. You will live to enjoy the fruit of your labor. The joy of motherhood will never depart from you.

You are the nation’s greatest treasure, the Lord’s best helpers and the most blessed among women. You divide your time among your children but multiply your love for all of them. You add the care of the home by subtracting many extras in order to do these awesome tasks; with long life God will satisfy you.

Mothers, you’re wonderful women, so gentle and strong. You make the world beautiful. You can do five things at the same time. God has endowed you with good things in life. As you celebrate this special day, may the Lord bless you with a good gift that only He can give you.

May God continue to uphold you in your position? May God continue to grant you the grace to support, care and love your children. God will grant you wisdom to teach your child in the way of the Lord. May you enjoy the fruit of your labor.

Happy Mother’s Day to every woman; may your peace flow like a river and your righteousness like the sea waves. 

Marriage – The Voice Of GOD From Within

This is a guest post by Joshua T Caleb, author, speaker and fellow blogger. He is a writer with a message to transform your life so you can passionately live your life with purpose and passion.

 

 

The following is written for everybody. Whether you are married or planning on getting married or a single looking for Mr. or Ms. Right., whether you are male or female. Please consider it well.

Marriage – The Voice Of GOD From Within By Joshua Caleb

Marriage – What is it? Who ordained it?

Marriage is more than two people joining together to say “I Do”

Marriage involves more than romance, sex, any physical pleasure or even companionship.

There are billions of people on this earth, yet we choose that one person to spend the rest of our lives with. Or, was the person chosen for us?

Marriage is the voice of a being speaking from within you saying…

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Introducing: Baby Joshua

Hello Everyone,

Finally some pictures of Joshua to share with you all. Having Joshua home in the past 2 weeks has been interesting to say the least.

Joshua has a healthy appetite for an infant, he sleeps, eats and poo! Which is great except that he sleeps all day and wake up at 12 midnight then refuses to sleep until 4am.

For some reason I cant remember our other 2 children doing this, but Adey says it was the same!  It all seems new all over again, so you can imagine in the morning I am not alert at all.

Overall, he is a good baby and for now I’m on his schedule.

Faith and David are deliriously happy to have a new baby at home. They don’t quite get it yet that Joshua is here to compete for some of their attention, lol!

They love him too much that we have to keep them all apart. 

We had a naming ceremony for Joshua on the 8th day; it was a great turn out with lot of food and drinks! Let me see, Joshua has in total about 6 names but only 2 goes on the birth certificate.

We are grateful to all our friends and family for their support at this time and also for all the gifts, love offerings and food. We are so honored and blessed by the love you have shown our family. We look forward to rejoicing with you and your family also soon!!.

We continue to pray for those that are still standing in faith for the fruit of the womb. We know that God is indeed faithful and there is nothing that is impossible for Him. Never give up— even when you are faithless, He is faithful.

Unto Us Joshua Is Born

Our little bundle of joy arrived 24th March 2011 weighing 7lb.01. We are grateful to God for this addition to our family. Our words are nothing compared to the joy we feel.

There are no words Lord, to say thank you. You are truly the covenant keeping God. You keep your words above your name; you are not a God that changes His mind. Your mercy and love overwhelms me. How can we ever thank you for all you have done.

You took pity on a messed up girl from Lagos, Nigeria. You saw my mess and shame; you wiped away my tears and my guilt. You gave me a new beginning and wiped out the handwriting of ordinances, which was against me; and You took it out of the way, nailing it to the cross. You have embarrassed me with your love.

Abba Father! There is nothing that I have done to ever deserve this great and mighty love that you have blessed us with. What the enemy meant for evil You turned it round for our good. Who can curse what You have blessed. You have used the foolish things of this world to confound the wise.

You are the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob. The God of Adey, Buky, Faith, David and Joshua. You are a God of covenant and relationship. The invincible God that does visible things.

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Grandparent For Hire

Lately my daughter has started asking about her grandparents. Each time, she has taken me by surprise and I haven’t figured what to tell her yet.

I try my very best to always tell her the truth, I realized that we need to established a relationship based on honesty even at such tender age of 4, children may be young but they are not stupid.

So why am I hesitant regarding my reply to her? We only have one living grandmother and she does not reside in America but most importantly hasn’t played an active role in our children’s lives.

Up till now it’s been ok and we do get by, our lives are busy with various other granny’s from our church who genuinely loves them. There is a part a grandparent plays in the lives of their children and I must admit that it is lacking in our children lives.

I don’t get bugged down by things that are out of my control; I comfort myself with the fact that at least we still have one that is living. My father is dead, both Adey’s parents are also late and none of them got to see our children. While it is not a source of sadness, it would have been nice to have them around to share some stories and family histories.

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