Women are sometimes confused with what is classified as an abusive behavior. It is not until he physically hits you, then you realize that you are being abused. There are obvious signs along the way; you chose to ignore it, even though your friends and family can see it.
Call it whatever name you want to emotional abuse, sexual abuse, physical abuse, and domestic abuse. Abuse is abuse.
Often, it is kept as a secret because women usually blame themselves and they feel ashamed that they have permitted it.
Look, it happens to people, period! You name it; even to the most educated and intelligent person. Yes, you can have PhD, MBA… and still make bad choice in a partner. It is no reflection on you being the weaker vessel. Usually the abusive person has issues, not you. Ok so you are the enabler in the name of “love”. Oh please! Not the “I love him all over again”.
Just because you are in a relationship does not mean that you should give up on your life. Just because you want, love in your life does not mean that you should permit someone to abuse you
That is what we do when we allow other people to hurt us and we stay with them. In the US once you are 18 years and above, the law considers you are capable of making certain decisions for yourself. So GROW up and take charge of your life!
Signs to look for.
1. Friends and families can’t stand him
2. He tells you that your friends are no good and he makes it almost impossible for you to have any friends. – He tells you what to wear.
3. He robbed you of your self-esteem and dignity by constantly telling you that you are; fat and ugly, no one else will have you. You should be happy and grateful you have him, you are nothing.
4. He destroy your personal pictures, wedding pictures and destroys heirlooms.