I wanted to have 5 children, initially, yes 5! Why? I was clueless and living in Lala land. Once we had our 3rd, I realized my limit. Fast forward, with 2 children in Elementary School and a middle schooler, I get 3 sets of school media information daily! It’s a struggle staying on top of emails and making sure vital pieces of information are not lost with the junk. Then add homework, project deadline, extracurricular activities, birthday parties, cooking, cleaning and laundry. Saying No to things became easy. This Mom is trying to have a life too. That’s why I can’t handle other people’s drama because I have enough of my own. Plain and simple.
As someone who used to love working under pressure, multi-tasking, even I have my limits. Life can be whatever we make it. It doesn’t have to be hard. Have we made it harder for ourselves to feel important?
Limits or limitations connotes negative vibes such as having to make do, with less or without. Are we really losing out or is our reality distorted?
Know Your Limits.
In order to know your limits, you’ll need to take an honest inventory of your life. Knowing your season helps define your limits: what you can and cannot do. Having a better understanding of your limit decides your commitment and priority.
Knowing my limits drive me to my knees, to pray and intercede for the need of others. Praying for others is the least we can do. No excuse. Everyone can pray.
As we become more self-aware, our true-self emerges; we are able to show up for ourselves and others by learning to operate within the confines of our limitations while respecting others.
Living within limits is how to find balance in life. As you realize your limits, you start living a purposeful life. When you know your limits you can live a life without limits.
“When you say ‘Yes’ to others, make sure you are not saying ‘No’ to yourself.”
Life is too short to major on minor things. Somethings are beyond your power and control. Hand it over to God.
Limits Are Real.
Limitations are real and different for each person. Limitations are not all bad, it brings clarity and order to life. It helps to speed up decision-making. Whoever fights their reality will lose.
We must work the works of him who sent me while it is day; night is coming, when no one can work. John 9:4, ESV.
We live in a limited world. Our days and resources are limited. This is not heaven. There are 24 hours in a day. The sun does not shine all day neither does the moonshine all night. If you go against the order of God you might die before your time.
We are not limited by our limitations, we are limited by our thinking, fear, belief, culture and traditions. Within the scope of our limitations, there is room to live a limitless life.
The body is not meant to endure long-term stress: You cannot survive without sleep and water. The earth was here before you and will be here after you are gone. Know your limits, respect the laws of God and nature and love your neighbor as you love yourself.
Embrace Your Limits.
Instead of resisting, surrender and embrace your limitations for therein lies your uniqueness, strengths, and advantages. Embracing limitations enable us to live without guilt or shame and free to be our true self.
Helen Keller at 19 months old contracted an illness, which left her both deaf and blind. She learned how to live with her limiting disabilities. She was the first deaf and blind person to earn a Bachelor of Arts degree. She was proficient in using Braille and sign language. She advocated for people with disabilities and women right to vote and access to birth control. She learned how to speak and became a world-famous speaker, an activist, and author. She did it her way!
When a limitation cannot be overcome, it can be circumvented.
Some of you say, “We can do whatever we want to!” But I tell you that not everything may be good or helpful. 1 Corinthians 10:23 CEV.
“You can do anything, but not everything.” ― David Allen
When the life you once had is over, you have the opportunity to embrace the new one with optimism. God is able to create a new life out of the broken ruins of your old life.
Have you bitten more than you can swallow? Don’t carry more than you can handle. Leave the heavy load to God. You are not JESUS!
You can’t pray every problem away. You can accept it, live with it and learn to love it.
What if your limitations are blessings in disguise?