A wise man is strong, yes, a man of knowledge increases strength. Proverbs 24:5
I used to think that being strong meant putting up with the drama, negativity, and abuse. I felt I had to fight my way thru life to survive and I could tolerate whatever others threw at me..
I was wrong.
Faking strong made me resentful, bitter, judgmental, defensive, regretful, and disconnect from my true self.
The weak pretend they are strong by copying and following other people. A wise person will study and identify an area of weakness in self to improve on.
I’ve learned that sometimes it’s wise to avoid some battles, and instead of climbing a mountain, march around it.
Being strong means having the courage to stand alone, be my own person, not be easily provoked, suffer fools gladly, bridle my tongue, walk away, having self-respect, saying no without having to explain or defend my choices and maintaining peace and harmony within myself.
At this point in my life, I want to solve problems not create them. I want to mend bridges not set them on fire. I want to do life with those who are willing to put in the time and love. I am excited to explore and embrace this season of my life.
I chose to walk away from energy vampires, unsafe people, one-sided relationship, from hearts that rejoice in another’s downfall, eyes that see faults, and a mouth that speak foolishness.
It’s OK not to belong where you once fitted in. It’s OK to be the underdog, and not have to live up to other people’s expectations.
If walking away makes me a coward and weak. So be it. I couldn’t be happier with my peaceful and drama free life.
I have many great and lousy days just like anybody else. Some days I want to stay in bed and be alone by myself. I miss that child in me who had no demands on her shoulders. I daydream about being a teenager again, sleeping late into the night and waking up at noon, clueless and full of youthful entitlements.
Thank God those days are far and between, and life demands and loving myself usually knock some sense back into me.
Adulting is unavoidable. Parenting is not for everyone. Marriage is not for the faint-hearted. Enjoy every season of your life; they go by so fast.
We mostly show our best face to the world. But we all know that no one is that happy all the time, right?
Whenever I’m having a horrible day, I don’t pretend that I’m full of the joy of the Lord. I don’t fight it; I let it be and ask what it’s here to teach me.
In the past, I would binge on unhealthy snacks, watch soul-crushing T.V shows to escape and not acknowledge my emotions. It only made things worse.
No one has control over life and awful days are a part of it. Work with what you have. It doesn’t matter who you are lousy days happen to all. Look within for answers.
4 Ways I get over Lousy days.
1. Daily Practice. Journaling helps me articulate my thoughts, clears my head and look inward.
Having a daily practice that works for you is like having a built-in support system. Your daily practice is always there within reach when others are not. I hope you already have a healthy daily routine that can pull you through.
2. Self Love. Loving myself means having my own back and showing up for me. I can’t expect to do for others what I’m not willing to do for myself.
I hope you find enough strength and encouragement from within to love yourself deeply through any circumstances. Loving yourself through all season of life keeps you calm, content, peaceful and sane in a messy world.
3. Count Your Blessings. I know I’m fabulously blessed. Lousy days are the best time to remember my top 3 blessings: A sound mind, good health, and a loving family.
Lousy days happen to everyone. Don’t let it sneak up on you. I hope you know your top 3 things that money cannot buy. Be proactive and ready to disarm the enemy’s lies.
4. Community. I surround myself with people who are caring and safe to be around.
Your life is too precious to surround yourself with people who are critical and judgmental. Find two people who are willing to do life with you, invest time in you and are willing to accept you just as you are. They will listen to you, speak life into you and wrap you up in love. Do it for your mental health.
What I know today: Lousy days are life’s subtle invitation to stillness and acceptance.
Over to you: How frequently do you have lousy days and how do you handle them?
I got tired of spinning my mind yearly trying to reinvent and rediscover myself. How many versions of myself are there? I decided enough was enough. I called off the search and cling to the truth. I am complete and enough because Christ alone is sufficient for me.
Daily we are bombarded with information, data, and the latest gimmick a constant reminder we are not good enough. No one can keep up, and there’s not enough time in one lifetime.
She realized that she is the mother, sister, and friend she had been searching for and simply became her true self. By loving, accepting, affirming herself through compassion, kindness, and by letting go of any judgments.
When we believe we are not good enough, we look to others to complete us. We search for our better half and soul mate in relationships. We hope to find solidarity in Sisterhood and Male bonding. We search for fulfillment by chasing significance in titles, education, religion, and fame. When all else fails, we blame everyone for not loving us enough, and for not doing right by us. We refuse to see how we’ve bought into a lie that we are not good enough, when in fact; everyone is on the same journey.
Who Lied To Us? The lies we believed about ourselves have kept us caged longer than the lies to to us. What lies have you bought into about yourself? Adam, who said to you that you were naked? Eve, Did God say, ‘You must not eat of any tree in the garden?’ Elijah, what are you doing here, in fear of Jezebel?
We’ve all bought into lies that we are not good enough, pretty enough, smart enough, successful enough or happy enough.
Identity Crisis. At the rate the world is changing – no one can keep up. The world indirectly demands that we keep up. If we are not secure in our identity in Christ, we’ll get caught up in the whirlwind of comparison, competing, ultimately despising one’s life, trying to fix what wasn’t broken in the first place and becoming who you are not.
Stop searching for yourself in others. You are complete in Christ and enough! The solutions the world offer is fleeting and very costly. The answers we seek are in Christ alone, free and permanent. Jesus said to him, “Follow me.” Matthew 9:9, CEV.
Challenge The Lies. Everything is not the truth. Challenge and debunk the lies. Write it out, put it against God’s word. You have the mind of Christ – use it. The Bible is our mirror; use it every day.
What If, they were wrong about you because you didn’t fit into their boxes. What if. They couldn’t see your greatness because that’s your responsibility. And what if you are a beautiful mess, rough around the edges, unique and perfect in your imperfections?
You make known to me the path of life; in your presence there is fullness of joy; at your right hand are pleasures forevermore. Psalm 16:11, ESV.
Now You Can live fully. Now you can let go of the lies. Now you can love and take care of you! You can do better because you know the truth.
Cling to the Truth. What God says about you is the only truth worth clinging to and has the power to transform your life. Deep inside – you know the truth. Embrace who you have always known you could be.
You are not damaged. You are not your past. You are loved. You are treasured. You are not an accident. You were well thought-out by God. And He knows you through and through. Christ delights in you and daily makes intercession for you.
I need more of God in every area of my life. I need Jesus with every waking breath I take. I’m not enough to run my life, raise my kids, and maintain a balanced home life, marriage and serve others. On my own, I’ve failed many times clinging to worthless idols. But with Christ, I’m capable and able to fulfill God’s purpose for my life. In Christ, I’ve found unfailing love, identity, self-worth, security, peace, and contentment.
You are enough. Call off the search. Take off the mask. Drop the dead weight. Cling to the truth. Love yourself and enjoy your life.
So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. Isaiah 41:10, NIV.
Are you facing challenges after challenges? Are you having a bad week or a bad season? You just can’t catch a break! You may be thinking surely God has forsaken and forgotten about you. Your situation seems to be getting worse, not better. I am right there with you. I’ve had some tough seasons, still ongoing if I must confess, but I’ve chosen to see myself ahead in the future where pastures are greener and my cup is running over.
God has not forgotten about you. He knows your address, and your name is inscribed on the palms of His hands. This is not the time to give up. Praise Him like He’s done it and keep on seeking the Lord.
It’s too easy to give up! Anyone can do that. We are not called to do the easy stuff. Life is not a bed of roses, some paths are paved with thorns. It’s not just you, we all have to walk our own road.
Most of us don’t get what we want because we quit praying and give up too easily. Don’t give up too soon. Don’t quit praying, your miracle is too near for you to quit now.
“Life knocks us all back, don’t give up, get back up! Every day is a brand new canvas, go back to the drawing board!”
Anyone can quit! Giving upis too easy. The path to greatness requires courage one day at a time. God knows your name and address – help is on the way! Your faithfulness will not go unrewarded. Don’t give up hope!
When discouragement rears its ugly head, introduce endurance. They are both parts of life’s process. Don’t give up on your dreams.
Blessed is the man who remains steadfast under trial, for when he has stood the test he will receive the crown of life, which God has promised to those who love him. James 1:12, ESV.
Prayer: Dear Lord, Give me the discernment to know when an opportunity is of Your making and when it is not. You alone, Lord, can open doors that no man can shut. Help me to be still when I am desperate and tempted. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
May this year bring you greater blessings than years past.
It is well with your health, spirit, soul, and body.
It is well with your water and bread.
It is well with your friends and families.
It is well with you at the rising of the sun and waking of the day.
It is well with you at the dawn of night and as you sleep.
It is well with you at home, in the city, and in the world.
It is well with the work of your hands, business, and endeavors.
May your life be peaceful, joyful, purposeful and filled with contentment.
May the Lord restore back to you double for what was lost.
The Lord will avenge and defeat all your enemies.
May the Lord establish, sustain and prosper you.
The Lord will guard your going out and your coming in.
May you be content with your blessings in this season and always.
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What I know today: Everyone you meet is either afraid of something, ashamed of something or struggling with something. None of us, including me, has it all together. But together we can comfort and support each other.
I can’t reach everyone, but I can reach YOU! And I’m fiercely praying for your utmost success in life.
The older I get the less interested I am in monetary gifts. Don’t get me wrong, I love having nice things but they are no longer a top priority.
Over the years, I’ve felt conflicted with the commercialism of Christmas. If indeed it’s a celebration of Jesus birth, why focused mainly on exchanging gifts?
Exchanging gifts cannot be the only focus of Christmas, the birth of our Lord Jesus Christ must be the focus. Starting with my family I’m gradually undoing what we’ve been taught over time.
The minimalist in me craves for things not sold in stores for a price that can help me to become a better human being.
A gift is an expression of love and appreciation. The cost of a gift shouldn’t be in monetary terms alone. Give thoughtful and purposeful gifts everyone can benefit from.
Here is a list of gifts I hope to give and will love to receive. They are gifts that keep on giving.
Encouragement – One of the easiest gift to give everyone around you: building each other up. Create a mutually encouraging community. Try it today, and you will reap the rewards.
Patience – We don’t have it all figured out, but with a little bit of patience we’ll get there. Someone needs your patience, be mindful and gently with how you treat others.
Authenticity – Being around authentic people frees me to be more of who I truly am and vice versa. Imagine a community of authentic people? Let’s be real, be more of who we truly are. Yes, we can!
Intimacy – With God and our spouse, with family and friends, makes a great marriage, relationships and the world a better place for everyone to co-exist. We get back what we put in.
Kindness – Because life gets tough, nobody likes ugly and kindness is free and never hurt anyone. Start by being kinder to yourself and watch how this single gift alone changes your world.
Forgiveness – What better time to forgive and let go of the past. Meet someone halfway, extending an olive branch and spreading joy to the world. Forgiveness sets you free.
Courage – When I confront the obstacles in my life in small doses, I can offer support and encouragement to others when needed. You can’t give what you don’t have.
Honesty – We need truth spoken in love because we tend to see other’s fault and not our own. And until we remove the logs in our own eyes we have no business pointing out the speck in another’s eye.
Anyone can buy you a gift, throw money at you, but only those who
truly care will invest time and take an interest in what matters to you.
Never take people’s time for granted.
Self-Awareness – When I love and accept myself as I am without judgment, it trickles down to everyone around me creating a needed synergy in our relationship.
Time – Granted, we can’t do life with everyone, let’s show up for those who have less than us: the orphans, homeless, those in prison, widows and less fortunate in our community. And make time for our loved one.
Better Communication – Lack of communication create negative vibes leaving rooms for assumptions, misunderstandings, and unresolved conflicts. Let’s do better.
Respect Other’s Boundaries – Respecting others boundaries is a sign of self-respect and how to maintain harmony in any relationship. Who doesn’t want that? Not me!
Vulnerability – Setting aside the mask we hide behind can simply save lives and connect on a soul level. Not so easy to do because we are afraid of being judged and criticized. Vulnerability is courage in disguise, not weakness.
Self-Love – Give this one gift to yourself because your body, soul, and spirit depend on it. We were taught to always to love others, not how to love ourselves. Love yourself while loving others. Loving yourself will help teach you how to love others well. It’s a win, win for all.
The best gifts are well thought-out from the heart, given freely without expectation. A gift becomes a gift when it’s offered, given, spoken, released and honored. In other to legitimize your gift it has to be communicated and honored by the giver.
Thank you for taking the time to read. May your gifts to yourself and others be fruitful and multiply.
As the year comes to an end, I’m in a reflective mood and here are some of the rules that have helped me live an intentional and purposeful life. They have saved me from unnecessary
stress, kept me grounded and focused on loving myself and minding my own business.
1. Let’s agree to disagree.
2. Owe no man anything but love.
3. When someone shows you their true color, believe it.
4. Say less and do more with your time.
5. Live in the present.
6. Do more of what makes you happy.
7. Be the best at being you.
8. Forgive: Let bygones be bygones.
9. Avoid debt, live within your means.
10. Be quick to learn and slow to judge.
11. Go where you are wanted, inspired and loved.
12. Always trust your instinct.
13. Become your own best friend.
14. Don’t look back.
15. Surround yourself with positive people.
16. Recognize your season.
17. Protect your peace.
18. Learn to love yourself daily.
19. Do everything with love and you’ll have fewer regrets.
20. Do not contribute to another person’s misfortune.
21. Give without expectations.
22. Live a simple and balanced life.
23. Let your yes be yes and your no be no.
24. Be content and grateful.
25. Make your relationship with God a priority.
I look forward to reading your comments. Kindly share what has helped you
along the way, we can all learn and grow together. Thanks for reading. 🙏🏽
Is Sharing Really Caring? We live in a world of information overload. We like, share, comment, retweet and unfollow, mute and block stuff we don’t like. Sometimes it gets really too much for some of us. I get overwhelmed by negative news and debates, unwanted text messages, junk mails, spam and too much exposure to social media. I crave solitude and regularly take breaks to detach from the hustle and bustle of a fast-changing world.
Chain letters and junk messages are one of my pet peeves. I can’t seem to get away from them no matter how much I try. I’ve unsubscribed from many online resources, blogs, and business organizations due to unnecessary junk mails. I don’t want to waste any precious time deleting chain letters, junk emails and text messages. It’s easier to just block repeat offenders who refuse to respect my boundary, and yes even family.
What are Spam and Junkmail?
Unsolicited, unwanted and forwarded emails, chain prayers and text messages. Bulk Ads campaigns and emails from an unknown sender and unsubscribed mailing list.
Junk comes in different forms and we can all agree that they are not serving any positive purpose in our lives. All junks are excess and a waste of everyone’s time and energy.
Let’s talk about Chain letters and Junk messages from people we know: our friends and family!
Chain Letters are junk. Period. They are manipulative and insert fear in people. Telling a friend if they break the chain they are not a good friend is nonsense.
Waking up to text messages titled WARNING!!!! WARNING!!! WARNING!!! is fear mongering and unacceptable.
Anyone who sends a chain letter full of ill wishes and threat such as these “If you break the chain you will have bad luck for the rest of your life” is not a caring friend.
Why would someone send me 5 pages of prayer in tiny fonts?🙈😂🙊😂 Surely, that can’t be from God! Lol! What have I done to deserve such, ahem, blessing?
Think Before You Click Send. Ask yourself these questions before clicking the send button. What is my intention? What is the message? What is the lesson? What emotion am I invoking? Is it absolutely necessary? Does it reflect my values and is this the best contribution I want to put out to the world?
Self-Awareness. Pay attention to your relationships. Is the communication one-way? Take a hint!
Don’t Abuse Your Access. A relationship is a blessing, don’t be a nuisance. Don’t abuse your access, use them with caution, use only when necessary and with wisdom.
Less Is More. If you really must share, keep it short and sweet. No one has time to read pages of emails and text messages.
Share Responsibly. If sharing is caring, share something worthwhile and useful. Share something original. Share your life, passion and common interest. Share something positive and uplifting. Stop forwarding and promoting hoaxes, salacious, hurtful, depressing gossips, unverified fake news.
In a healthy relationship, you know each other’s like and dislike, respect other’s boundaries and don’t send junk, annoying messages.
The truth is we are all complicit. We have all contributed to junk messages. The question is what part are you going to play moving forward? How have you dealt with junk messages from friends and family?
A Note Of Appreciation To all my readers: I love corresponding with anyone who has genuine questions and needs. I value your privacy and would never share your email addresses with a third-party or spam you. I feel so blessed that we’ve been able to create a community based on mutual love and respect. I can honestly say that no one in our community spam or bombard me with junk. Bravo!
I wanted to have 5 children, initially, yes 5! Why? I was clueless and living in Lala land. Once we had our 3rd, I realized my limit. Fast forward, with 2 children in Elementary School and a middle schooler, I get 3 sets of school media information daily! It’s a struggle staying on top of emails and making sure vital pieces of information are not lost with the junk. Then add homework, project deadline, extracurricular activities, birthday parties, cooking, cleaning and laundry. Saying No to things became easy. This Mom is trying to have a life too. That’s why I can’t handle other people’s drama because I have enough of my own. Plain and simple.
As someone who used to love working under pressure, multi-tasking, even I have my limits. Life can be whatever we make it. It doesn’t have to be hard. Have we made it harder for ourselves to feel important?
Limits or limitations connotes negative vibes such as having to make do, with less or without. Are we really losing out or is our reality distorted?
Know Your Limits. In order to know your limits, you’ll need to take an honest inventory of your life. Knowing your season helps define your limits: what you can and cannot do. Having a better understanding of your limit decides your commitment and priority.
Knowing my limits drive me to my knees, to pray and intercede for the need of others. Praying for others is the least we can do. No excuse. Everyone can pray.
Self-Awareness. As we become more self-aware, our true-self emerges; we are able to show up for ourselves and others by learning to operate within the confines of our limitations while respecting others.
Living within limits is how to find balance in life. As you realize your limits, you start living a purposeful life. When you know your limits you can live a life without limits.
“When you say ‘Yes’ to others, make sure you are not saying ‘No’ to yourself.” ― Paulo Coelho
Life is too short to major on minor things. Somethings are beyond your power and control. Hand it over to God.
Limits Are Real. Limitations are real and different for each person. Limitations are not all bad, it brings clarity and order to life. It helps to speed up decision-making. Whoever fights their reality will lose.
We must work the works of him who sent me while it is day; night is coming, when no one can work. John 9:4, ESV.
We live in a limited world. Our days and resources are limited. This is not heaven. There are 24 hours in a day. The sun does not shine all day neither does the moonshine all night. If you go against the order of God you might die before your time.
We are not limited by our limitations, we are limited by our thinking, fear, belief, culture and traditions. Within the scope of our limitations, there is room to live a limitless life.
The body is not meant to endure long-term stress: You cannot survive without sleep and water. The earth was here before you and will be here after you are gone. Know your limits, respect the laws of God and nature and love your neighbor as you love yourself.
Embrace Your Limits. Instead of resisting, surrender and embrace your limitations for therein lies your uniqueness, strengths, and advantages. Embracing limitations enable us to live without guilt or shame and free to be our true self.
Helen Keller at 19 months old contracted an illness, which left her both deaf and blind. She learned how to live with her limiting disabilities. She was the first deaf and blind person to earn a Bachelor of Arts degree. She was proficient in using Braille and sign language. She advocated for people with disabilities and women right to vote and access to birth control. She learned how to speak and became a world-famous speaker, an activist, and author. She did it her way!
When a limitation cannot be overcome, it can be circumvented.
Some of you say, “We can do whatever we want to!” But I tell you that not everything may be good or helpful. 1 Corinthians 10:23 CEV.
“You can do anything, but not everything.” ― David Allen
When the life you once had is over, you have the opportunity to embrace the new one with optimism. God is able to create a new life out of the broken ruins of your old life.
Have you bitten more than you can swallow? Don’t carry more than you can handle. Leave the heavy load to God. You are not JESUS!
You can’t pray every problem away. You can accept it, live with it and learn to love it.
What if your limitations are blessings in disguise?
Beloved, be alert and fully awake! Don’t allow the systems of this world to rock you to sleep. Don’t get sucked into the bubbles of religious activities, working and paying the bills. Focus on a personal relationship with God and know his voice for yourself. Discover why you were created-your true calling, owe no man anything except love and live below your means. The pursuit of happiness and busyness of life has taken many captives on the rollercoaster of never having enough! Wake up from your slumber!
Be alert, be on watch! Your enemy, the Devil, roams around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour. 1 Peter 5:8, GNT.
What I Know Today: The enemy of our souls will NEVER ever relent or give in until the day of Jesus Christ. The devil is not some big bad wolf, he is evil incarnate, evil personified. He’s not playing hide and seeks. He means business and he has had decades perfecting his skills. Don’t be ignorant of his devices.
The devil wants us busy working for money, chasing the next big thing but never to discover our identity, dream, vision, purpose and spiritual gift. Be alert and fully awake!
We are in the fight of our lives, we are a target because we are marked by the blood of Jesus Christ. We do not belong to the devil and this world for we are Christ. And you belong to Christ, and Christ belongs to God.
1 Corinthians 3:23, NCV.
I hope you already know this: You are so much more than what you or others can see or touch. You are so much more than what you’ve known or done. You are so much more than what others think or even how your perceptions frame your self-image. You could never be accurately measured by what you own or lack. You are more than the span of your years and therefore cannot be tethered to the adages of young or old. You are a child of the eternal realm. You are more than single, divorced, widowed or married. You are far more than your gender. ― Lisa Bevere. #Adamant on page 35.
An excerpt from my current read: Adamant, by Lisa Bevere. A love note-to-self and a reminder worth sharing with friends. Post somewhere accessible for those days when doubt creeps in. I hope you already know this about yourself and I pray this post serves as a gentle whisper and a reminder of your significance.
There are no limits, only uncertainties. Waiting for certainty is certainly a waste of time. If not now then when? Don’t put off what you can do today until tomorrow. Tomorrow may never come, seize the day! Regardless of the outcome, all you can do is your best by playing your part. Better to try and fail than to never give it a shot!
Do ONE thing today that will take you closer to fulfilling your God-ordained purpose. Don’t worry about tomorrow and what others are doing. By doing your very best daily, God will increase your efforts. There is never a good time to disobey God. When you obey God, He will take care of your “IFs, BUTs and HOWs!”
How do you know what your life will be like tomorrow? Your life is like the morning fog–it’s here a little while, then it’s gone. James 4:14, NLT.
If you don’t go after what you want, you’ll never have it. If you don’t ask, the answer is always no. If you don’t step forward, you’re always in the same place.” — Nora Roberts
IF NOT YOU THEN WHO? There are many negative voices trying to talk you out of your destiny. Be the ONE to talk yourself into your destiny by encouraging yourself in the Lord.
What I know today: If the vision for your life doesn’t drive you to your knees; it’s just a good idea.
At every season in life, God will use the people you spend the most time with to teach you lessons. Be quick to learn and slow to judge.
Wise are those who restrain their talking; people with understanding are cool-headed. Proverbs: 17:27, CBE.
What people do, say and how they treat us gives us plenty of opportunities to judge them. Just trying to make it through a day without being the judge and jury is challenging.
In my ignorance, I have burned many bridges and highways by being too quick to judge and a very slow learner. Thanks be to God who never gave up on moi. I’m teachable: Still learning and growing. Always.
Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger. James: 1:19, ESV.
Everyone you come in contact with has been placed there by God to teach and mold you. Why else do you think they are in your life? Ahhhhhh! Get it?
What I know today: When we are quick to learn and slow to judge, we become wiser with fewer regrets in life.
There are no shortcuts in life. Anytime I thought I’d found one: I’ve gone twice the distance and paid thrice the price. Lesson learned!
If only I’d gotten this lesson down earlier in life! Never too late though. That was the story of my life. Maybe you can relate too. Taking shortcuts: lying, keeping up with the Joneses, procrastination, cheating, wrong relationship, plagiarism, sabotaging, withholding information and fraud, just to name a few. Avoid these pitfalls and seek God for your identity in Christ Jesus.
A shortcut is the longest route to nowhere.
What’s The Rush?
Stop looking for shortcuts and quick fixes. Do the work & acquire the right set of skills to help you become A Master in your chosen field! You can do it!
There are many temptations on the path to fulfilling your destiny. Avoid shortcuts and loopholes, get rich quick schemes and scams. They will only lead to regret and misery. If it sounds too good to be true: Run for your life!
“He that hastens to be rich has an evil eye and does not consider that poverty shall come upon him.” (Proverbs 28:22)
A shortcut is the path that seems right but only lead to disappointment, lawlessness, disorderliness and painful regrets. Seek truth and love which will take you to greatness and honor. Discover your purpose in life by doing what you love, making a difference and getting paid for it.
Taking shortcuts is a clear sign of ignorance, unbelief in God and lack of faith in one’s abilities. It robs you of any credibility and makes you an easy target for criminals.
What I know today: Sweat equity creates value. Do not get weary in the pursuit of your passion. Be diligent, pour your heart and soul into your work. Bless the world with your gift and God will enlarge and multiply your efforts.
Who are you going to be today? That is a decision only you can make. You can be who others say you are, you can be like anyone you admire or you can simply be you.
As simple as that may sound, it wasn’t always easy for me to live out. We have friends, family, religion, traditions, and environmental factors to consider that can easily condition us into who we are not.
I have evolved quite a lot from being a daughter, sister, an independent woman, married and now a mother At every season of my life I’m evolving. At different stages of my life, I’ve learned that I can be whomever I decide to be. That I have a powerful voice and ultimately I must be true to myself.
You cannot live a successful life masquerading as someone else. There is no one else like you in this world. Own who you are!
Daily I am walking the path God sets for me. Growing, discovering myself, making difficult choices, questioning beliefs, changing old habits, kicking some long-held traditions to the curve but mostly loving who I am.
What I know today: Life gets better when you accept who you are. Choose you: Be You. Do You.
Be the kindest, nicest, happiest and the most caring and loving version of yourself.
Food For Thought: How you define yourself is your choice. How others define you is theirs. It’s up to you to decide which definition you prefer. – Evy Poumpouras
Whoever you decide to become, be happy and love who you see in the mirror.
Dear friends, remember, you are a child of God, dearly loved, accepted and redeemed.
If we are honest most of our prayers are self-seeking and self-serving. It’s in our nature to want more. The flesh will never be satisfied; the more it gets, the more it demands.
For you, what does having more look like? Is it a bigger house, a new car or a high-income job? Maybe you are single and believing God for a spouse or married waiting to conceive? We are all seeking God for one thing.
Having more is never satisfying or enough. The more you have the more you desire. It takes a lot more to maintain more.
Be careful what you pray for. You may end up getting it only to discover it wasn’t worth it after all. Ask God to grant you His heart desires.
Have you counted the cost of seeking more? Can God trust you with His blessings?
Can God trust you with problems? Oftentimes blessings are disguised as problems. When life kicks you to the curb, will you give up and accept defeat or would you trust God by praying and waiting on Him? If you falter in a time of trouble, how small is your strength! Proverbs 24:10, NIV.
Can God trust you with Leadership? Many want to lead but very few are willing to serve. Leadership requires commitment and dedication. Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will exalt you. James 4:10, ESV.
If God looks into your heart what will He found there?
We can fool other people but God looks at the heart and nothing is hidden from Him. Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life. Proverbs 4:23, ESV.
Can God trust you with a family of your own? Can God trust you with the marriage and children you’re praying for? Will you honor your vows to be faithful forsaking all others? Do you have a vision and plan for how to raise your children in the way of the Lord? For I know him, that he will command his children and his household after him, and they shall keep the way of the Lord, to do justice and judgment; that the Lord may bring upon Abraham that which he hath spoken of him. Genesis 13:22, KJV.
Can God trust you to keep your promises? Will you honor your promise to God, yourself, family, friends and on your job even when the circumstance is different? Are you a person of honor and integrity? You shall be careful to do what has passed your lips, for you have voluntarily vowed to the Lord your God what you have promised with your mouth. Deuteronomy 23:23, ESV.
Have you been faithful in the little? Having little is not an excuse for not helping others. Everyone can help someone because everyone has something to offer. And He said, “Truly, I tell you, this poor widow has put in more than all of them. For they all contributed out of their abundance, but she out of her poverty put in all she had to live on.” Luke 21:3-4, ESV.
Can God trust you with more money? Are you a good steward? Have you been faithful in managing your finances and paying off your debt? Are you faithful supporting God’s kingdom and helping the least among us? “Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal, but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal. Matthew 19-20, ESV.
Can God trust you with His glory? By using every opportunity you get to share your testimonies and point others to Christ giving all glory to God alone. “I am the LORD; that is my name! I will not give my glory to anyone else, nor share my praise with carved idols. Isaiah 42:8, NLT.
Can God trust you to help others? Every blessing you get from God is not just for yourself. Too many of us are good at praying for others but would not lift a finger to offer real solution or help. When I was hungry did you feed me? “The King will answer and say to them, ‘Truly I say to you, to the extent that you did it to one of these brothers of Mine, even the least of them, you did it to Me.’ Matthew 25:40, NASB.
Food For Thought: And if you are untrustworthy about worldly wealth, who will trust you with the true riches of heaven? (Luke 16:11 NLT)
Do you have a vision and a plan for yourself? Why do you want more, and more of what? More of nothing is NOTHING! Be specific. Make it plain. Write it down. Pray about it and commit it to the Lord.
What I Know Today: At the end of my life I hope I can say I loved more than I was loved, I gave more than I received, I forgave more than I was forgiven, and I leave this world a tad better than I found it.
As long as the earth remains, your God-given gift will forever be in demand. There will always be opportunities to exercise your gift. You may lose your job, but you will never lose your gift.
Recognize, appreciate and value your God-given gift. Whatever you have in your hand is what God will bless. Stop comparing your gift to others. Little or small, ask God to bless it. Your gift will make room for you. A man’s gift makes room for him and brings him before great men. Proverbs 18:16, AKJV.
Do not neglect or despise your gift. When you focus on developing your gift, it will make room for you. You already have a gift waiting to be discovered and developed. Your gift may appear insignificant to you, yet, it’s the very thing God will use to bless you and others.
Your gift looks insignificant because it is not connected to the vision God has for your life. And because you’ve not done anything to earn or deserve it.
Discovering your gift enables you to step into leadership, overcome your fear and live a truly fulfilling life. Only a few would seize their moment when it’s presented to them on a gold platter due to fear of feeling unqualified.
For this reason I remind you to fan into flame the gift of God, which is in you through the laying on of my hands. 2 Timothy 1:6, ESV.
This fear once plagued me, almost crippled me and I still have to fend it off at times.
Your gift and talent qualify you for your purpose, not your education. No amount of education, drive to succeed, affirmation, and willpower is able to overcome a lack of knowing your purpose and gift.
When others see opportunity and potential, one sees all the reasons why it won’t work due to fear. The solution for overcoming feeling unqualified is to know God’s will for your life and depend on Him.
It’s frustrating and unfulfilling to continue to watch others live out their dreams. It’s depressing to allow this fear to haunt you for the rest of your life. Surround yourself with people who have discovered their purpose and gift, and are pursuing their God-given vision.
Years ago I signed up for Toast Masters. I almost didn’t show up on the first day, but I knew I had to for myself. I was pleasantly surprised how welcoming and friendly everyone was. After all, we were all there to overcome our fear together and make new friends on the same life journey.
Prayerfully Step Out.
God qualifies the called, not by man’s valuation or qualifications. The next time an opportunity presents itself, prayerfully step out. Stop thinking about all the reasons why you can’t do it, rather focus on all the lessons you would learn and who you could become.
Your gift and talent are opportunities to develop your strength, serve others and fulfill your purpose.
What I know Today: As long as the earth remains, your God-given gift will forever be in demand. There will always be opportunities to exercise your gift. You may lose your job, but you will never lose your gift.
You are somebody’s hero: do it for them. You are someone’s voice: speak up. Someone’s life depends on you: fight for them.
When someone attacks you for no reason. Forgive them for Christ’s sake.
When you cannot find it in your heart to forgive or let go. Do it for Christ’s sake. When the desire to avenge is greater than forgiveness. Do it for Christ alone.
When you feel like giving others their just deserve, remember the unmerited grace you didn’t deserve. For Christ’s sake extend grace to others.
Dear God, When I’m frustrated and enraged at the injustice and double standards in the world. May I remember the cross, your unconditional love, and compassion for the lost. May I choose to follow your example for Christ’s sake.
For it has been granted to you that for the sake of Christ you should not only believe in him but also suffer for his sake. Philippians 1:29, ESV.
Christ has fought for us and now we must love, endure and suffer for Christ’s sake.
The word Sake means: for the purpose of; in the interest of; in order to achieve or preserve.
No one has greater love than this: that someone lay down his life for his friends. John 15:13, LEB
We are called to die to live not to live to die. We are here to fight and die for Christ’s sake.
What Needs To Die? The flesh! Our flesh needs to die daily. My rights, feelings, earthly desires, comforts and entitlements.
Our needs and wants and desires are not necessarily God’s will. Set your mind and affections on Christ alone. Love what God loves and hate what He hates.
In a war, soldiers don’t go to battle for their own agenda. They fight for a common purpose, to achieve and to uphold.
Who Are You Going To Die For?
Death comes to all eventually and no one gets out alive. We’re all going to die one day. Who are you going to die for?