Why Do You Forgive?

To each person, we forgive for different reasons. The Bible says in Colossians 3:13 (NIV) that,

“13Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.

There are so many reasons why it is good to forgive, regardless of what the other person have done to us. It’s easier also said than done! Am sure by now we all know it’s just not cool when you are the one on the receiving end of someone else wickedness.

I know that in the past, I have caused others pain, whether knowingly or unknowingly. I have come to regret the once am aware of, even the once am not aware of; I have since ask God for forgiveness.”

People are more vulnerable to the devil when they do not repent and forgive others because they continuously carry that burden in their heart. Being quick to repentance and forgiveness releases this burden, freeing your mind and heart and becoming invulnerable to the will of the devil who takes advantage of people’s weakest moments. Personally, the longer I let sins and unforgiveness fester in my heart, the more damage it does to me. So, we need to give the devil no reason to have a hold on us.

So while we are being honest, let me tell you the reason why am quick to forgive and repent of my sins.

It’s purely for a selfish reason, there is no way getting round it once I realized that God will not answer my prayers if I have not forgiven others: Mat 6:14-15 (NIV) says, “For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But, if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.”

God cannot accept your offerings or prayers if you refuse to forgive others. This also means that your offering will not become like a memorial or a priority before God, which is a real shame and a waste.

What is more important? Holding on to unforgiveness and not repenting or having my prayers answered? I know the one I will be choosing. I have things that I am praying to God for, I’ll rather have all the good stuff God have in stock for me.

So my reasons are purely selfish, why do you forgive?

About Buky

Buky is a ''Desperado after God". She is married to Adey and together they are raising 3 amazing children. She is a natural encourager, loves sharing practical experiences with others. She enjoys writing, reading, dabbling in stock trading, hanging out with friends and serving the body of Christ.


  1. B, would it also be worth exploring the 'HOW' does one forgive.

    As you rightly pointed out, it's easier said than done.

    It requires a daily, hourly, minute check to confirm that those deep rooted obscure resentments have dissipated. There could be a momentary relapse that reminds one of those who caused hurt and pain. There could be instances where a past friend reminds one. In fact, in some cases, there could be eternal reminders, such as my scenario, if you know what I mean.

    In all such cases, be still and know that The Lord knows the beginning and end of every matter. By His stripes, we are healed of every pain, hurt, infirmity. And that is how forgiveness of that situation arises.

  2. Femi

    I couldnt have said it better. It is a daily work and from time to time, there will be relapse and flashbacks.

    What have helped me to forgive is reminding myself that even I also have offended others and that in Christ I am a new creation.

    The goodness of God leads us to repentance and finally how can I not forgive when He loves me regardless.

  3. Its very important to forgive even though it can be very difficult sometimes. I’ve found in the past that not forgiving can sometimes hinder my prayers. Forgiving doesnt come easy especially for those that have been hurt badly. I pray that God teaches us how to forgive others who have wronged us in any way.

  4. Buky – Thanks for this simple but wonderful and important reminder on one of the wonderful benefits of forgiveness!:)! Have a blessed day!

  5. Many say they don’t feel like forgiving? I say, of course not, but forgiving is not “a feeling” it’s
    a choice! By making the wise choice to forgive you don’t let people “off the hook”…. NO, instead, no matter the out come YOU are the one to get FREE! We can’t make people receive our forgiveness, that’s The Holy Spirits Job, but we can let go and know if we
    sincerely apologize we have done our part and if they never
    come around it is their choice and our heart is right. We are free to move forward and know that there are seasons of friendship that change by circumstance or geography….maybe just a lost number or address. We can’t get so introspective we lose our Joy or anything else. Accepting the fact that not all people will remain…people come and go and then the next amazing person comes into your life for a season, a purpose, to enhance your life and it’s a blessing sent from God…for a season.

  6. unforgiveness, it’s also a blessing blocker….duh, don’t want that!
    And I wanna be right with My God, pleasing
    HIM more than holding on to my stuff!

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