A Letter To My Husband
It is exactly 5 years ago that you took me to be your bride. These past 5 years have been a blessing with you and our children. There is not one day have I ever regretted marrying you.
Adey means “ The Crown”, you have been my joy and crown. (Phil4:1)
You have been to me, what Abraham was to Sarah, my lord (Gen18:12). You are gentle, kind, considerate, loving and have no bad words to say about anybody.
You are still the man that I fell in love with 5 years ago, and baby you get better and more handsome by the day. You are like a bottle of wine, the older you are the sweeter you get.
A week before we were schedule to get married. We had some major setback. Somebody gave a very damaging report about me of which you and the officiating minister for our wedding were informed of. The information was so damaging, honestly I won’t have gone ahead and marry me too.
With all the commotion and confusion, I was crushed and yet you decided that you still wanted to marry me. We were informed that the marriage could no longer take place at the church, still, you were strong and a rock for me.
You insisted on marrying me because God told you that I am the one and not marrying me will be disobeying God. “God doesn’t change his mind”, you said. It was crazy finding a new venue just few days before the big day. We did it and the day was glorious. You told me to keep a dignified silence on this issue and watch God fight for us. You refused and wouldn’t have any negative words said about those involved.
You know my good, bad and ugly; still you love me regardless. You married me knowing that I might not be able to have any children but you put your faith and trust in the Lord. I watched you wake up in the middle of the night praying, interceding and seeking God for our children. I never knew watching you do that can made me fall in love over and over again.
Ten months after we were married we conceived our first child, Faith. My 9mths pregnancy experience was a fairy tale. You spoilt me rotten; I declared that I was the most pampered wife ever.
When Faith was born you stayed right by my side the entire time, sleeping on the sofa bed in the hospital. You gave our daughter her first bath. You are the best daddy in the whole wide world.
From time to time I would go crazy on you for no reason. Yes, I can be full of drama even I don’t get myself sometimes. Not once have you ever raised your hand or fist to me. You simply just smile and wonder “what is going on in her head”. It takes two to fight, and you have never been a willing party to arguments. You’d rather walked away even though I do love a good argument once in a while, lol.
You are quick to apologize to me even when am at fault. That really makes me feel guilty when you do that, but don’t stop!!! I cannot remember the last Saturday morning that I made breakfast in our home, with the exception of when you are working abroad. I look forward to my cups of tea in the mornings and nothing beats your Saturday breakfasts with you allowing me to sleep in.
You are the one who encouraged me to go to bible school, you pushed me into blogging. You are my No.1 fan, always believing in me even when I don’t believe in myself. You are my bible tutor and you are always very patient explaining verses to me.
It took 16 months to conceive our second child, David. I had my moments when I’d panicked and you were quick to remind me that God promised us “Children not Child”. According to the scripture we stood on Ps 127:3
David’s arrival was wonderful, God did it again! The human- labeled barren woman has become a mother for the second time. You were there by my side, and you gave David his first bath too. The children and I are everything to you. Not only do your actions say that, but you tell us.
You are different and rare. You know who you are in God. Strong, yet tender and sensitive to God and our needs. You are so secure in who you are that my being overly pushy and opinionated sometimes doesn’t bother you at all. Your yes is yes, your no is no. You are a man of few words, a man of integrity. Nothing seems to bother you too much, which sometimes drive me bonkers, lol. Lord help me.
Since I have known you, just watching you and your relationship with God, challenges me to do better. You live what you believe; the person you are privately is who you are publicly. Everyone who knows you know that you are a man after God’s heart. God is first in your life, and you pursue holiness and practice what you preach. You make it look so easy.
I thank God for you, being around you this past 5 yrs have made me a little calmer too. Some might not believe it, but I am a little calmer these days, lol.
Your work takes you away from us from time to time and it is not the same when you are not home. I am not just missing my teas and breakfast, I miss my friend and the children drive me crazy with ‘I want my daddy’ all day long!
I thanked the Lord for your mother and father; your mother raised a fine gentleman and I am enjoying the fruits of her labor. The upbringing, morals, discipline and cooking she taught you are all to my benefit. I hope that I can raise good children just like she did.
There are no words to describe or express what you mean to me and our children. You are highly favored of God and I am super blessed because of you.
The future is so bright; I need sunglasses, lol. I am ready to spend my everyday with you. I can’t promise a drama free zone, but that will just kill all the fun, won’t it? Hahahah.
Although I cant promise a drama free zone,I can promise to continue to honor, respect, love you, and I will always defer to you. I promise to be the best mama I can be to all of the children God is blessing us with. I will continue to represent you and honor your name because God has changed me from whom I used to be. Now, I am a daughter of Zion, and I am your wife, your friend, your confidante and the mother to all your children.
The best is yet to come, babe.