While Adey and I were courting, we saw each other on and off about 5 times before I eventually move to America to plan our wedding. I was living in London while we were dating and I paid for all my travelling expenses. It never occurred to me to ask him and he didn’t offer to pay for my flight either.
Y’all know I was a desperado right? Oh yeah! I knew what I wanted and I was going for it and nothing was going to get in my way. Not even who pays for what.
I was single and fabulous (still fabulous) and I had my own money. It never occurred to me to ask at all.
In all honesty I figured that once I am in, I will be greatly reimbursed for all my costs, lol. For real too, I wanted babies and a happy marriage as my reimbursement. (Which he’s awesomely doing) Not cash and gift that I would spend in no time (that he’s also doing) and didn’t have any lasting value.
So this was what happened to my girl friend, she met Mr. Right (me think) but he didn’t offer to pay for her flight or any of her travelling expenses and she was not happy about it. She also felt that he should be calling more; she didn’t try too hard herself because she believed that was his job.
To cut a long boring story short, she dropped him. Who was at fault? What really are the rules of long distance dating?
Sometimes we have to be careful and not be too hasty in our “kicking him to the curb”. It takes time to know someone and you can’t afford to judge them too quickly and reaching wrong assumption.
What if the brother is watching out for a “gold digger”? What if he had been down that road before and was taken to the cleaners? You never know where someone is coming from or what shaped their thinking.
Talk back to me folks!! Can’t wait to read your comments!