So imagine my surprise on our first date when I was informed that there will be a friend coming along? A friend coming along with us on our first date I thought, what for?
The definition of Chaperone by http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/chaperone is as follows;
1 – a person (as a matron) who for propriety accompanies one or more young unmarried women in public or in mixed company
2 – an older person who accompanies young people at a social gathering to ensure proper behavior; broadly : one delegated to ensure proper behavior
Adey informed me that his very good friend (Sam) will be coming along with us to the cinema on our very first date! Up until then all our conversation were on the phone.
Alright to those of you in the Christian-Dom, you might not find this strange. But I was coming from the world, so bear with me. We do things differently and this was all too new to me.
Especially when you consider yourself to have seen and done it all. This took me by surprise in a nice way. I thought about it and I kind of started liking this new man I’m about to know better.
Never had any man wanted to protect me or needed to be accountable for their behavior until I met Adey.
I was also willing to do something new, something other than what I had been doing before which certainly was not working for me.
Off we went on our very first date with our chaperone. I felt protected that someone genuinely cared about their actions and conduct.
This was to set the tone of the character of Adey and the type of person he is.
Chaper-what? At my age in my 30’s and finally doing things the right way. My mom used to drive me crazy with stories of how she and my dad courted with a chaperone and never alone by themselves. I use to think back then “that is so ancient”.
Well, who is ancient now? Me, lol. One way or the other mothers are always right.
For the first time in my life, I experienced the joy of courting/dating without the added pressure of brothers behaving badly and no hands all over me! Plz….
You may be wondering what kind of people I was rolling with? Yeah here is a shocker for you, Christians. Just because we were in the world doesn’t always mean that we didn’t want a Christian brother/sister too.
I know it may not sound cool anymore to still have chaperone in attendance when you hang out with each other. You may think that you wont be tempted and you end up doing something you will end up regretting, hence ruining a good relationship before it started.
We must be careful of not giving wrong impression to others and avoid all appearances of evil.
Just because you have been around and seen it all doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be open minded to a new way of doing things. Don’t be stuck in the mud and not accept changes, life is too short doing it your own way.
The lesson here is to do things the godly way and be open to trying something new that you have never tried before. You just never know what you are missing out on.
What was your experience on your first date and what new things have your tried that took you by surprise, nicely!