It’s my birthday today and I feel younger than ever! I woke up to text messages from my siblings and friends, how nice and thoughtful.
I have everything I’ve wanted; God’s in our lives, Adey, the children, being pregnant and absolute joy and peace in my life. Money can’t buy any of those things.
I was serenaded with a special rendition of “happy birthday mom’’. Hahah how sweet, well done guys! I got presents too; a Balenciaga perfume and a house slipper. I can’t decide which one I love the most. I didn’t own a house slipper I usually wear Adey’s. My perfume smells lovely, thank you babe.
Just about 7 years ago, I was living in London, even though I liked having a career and a portfolio of properties that generates income for me on the side. I wanted more that money didn’t give me; I wanted my own family and I honestly didn’t think I could have that before I turned 40 yrs old. I am not yet 40 but getting closer to it.
I have been running a race against myself ever since; I didn’t want what anyone else had. I made a simple list of what I wanted and I started competing with myself.
My simple list comprises of:
1 – Husband, 2 – Children, 3 – Relocation to America, 4 – A deeper walk with God. 5 – Discovering my passion, 6 – Having a better understanding about men and godly marriage.
As I reflect back on the past 7 yrs – The lines have fallen for me in pleasant places; yes, I have a good heritage (Psalm 16:6). Not having a clear goals and aspirations will always lead to many stumbling blocks along the way that will detain you from ever having anything worthy.
I am also reminded of “The race is not to the swift, nor the battle to the strong, neither yet bread to the wise, nor yet riches to men of understanding, nor yet favor to men of skill; but time and chance happeneth to them all. (Eccl 9:11)
I have shared my journey to marriage thru get desperate with God and get married. My journey to motherhood thru these post part 1 and part 2 . I have also shared with you my wonderful husband and best friend Adey.
In each of these posts I mentioned countless times that God played the major role, and if not for Him none of it will come together. My journey with God is ongoing till I get to see His face and join the 24 elders in singing Holy, Holy, Holy. Attending All Nations School of Ministry helped greatly too
In a previous post I talked about the importance of being prepared for a marriage and having a better understanding of men. How do you learn about men?
I learn from married women who have successful marriages, I also learn by reading books written by men on marriages. These women didn’t hold back, they were honest and they shared the good, bad and ugly of marriage with me. They told me there will be not so good times but it is ok because every marriage will be tested.
The best mentor on marriage so far for me was living with my sister dearest for 3 months. I watched and learn from a real life couple, I saw how they juggle their marriage, children and ministry.
It was the best 3 months ever; it changed my unrealistic opinions and any romantic notions I had about marriage. It prepared me for what was to come and I was better prepared than ever before.
In a future post I will discuss the importance of discovering your passion early in life if possible. While a lot of people know what their passion is; I didn’t know for a long time. It kind of affected me in a way going thru life not finding satisfaction in the works of my hands. So I focused on pursuing money instead until I discovered what I wanted to do.
I really believe that discovering your passion can also help guide your decision for a life partner. Not anyone is capable of walking along with you on this journey of life.
So here I am to tell you today that you also can have the life you desire, one step at a time. It will take determination, honesty, being focused, a lot of patience, prayer and perseverance, mentors along the way and knowing that you deserved the best God wants for you.
Having the life you desire doesn’t mean financial riches; it’s about having what is important to you and what will bring you joy and peace.
I wished I did this earlier in my life but I am happy I had this experiences and I wont change it for any thing. Looking back now it looks easy and simple, it wasn’t when I was going thru it. I had to stop having pity parties; I stopped faking it and started facing the real and ugly truth about me. I had to learn a different way of dealing with obstacles and learning to love me.
The journey is not over or complete, but I am finally happy and loving being Buky. I have what is important to me and I am grateful to God.
So my question to you is – are you happy where you are today? What will it take to get you there?
Why not start today with a simple list of your own and take it one day at a time. With God on your side who can dare be against you!
Have a great weekend; you bet that I am going to have a blast today and always.