Everyone of us has one or two; they are called the critics. They seat in judgment of you, they are the judge and jury.
I’m no different from most people; I don’t like being criticized. Overtime I’ve learnt how to better deal with it now than in the past. Some criticism are good, especially if the source is credible.
Where can you find these people? They are everywhere–in your church, at work and especially within your family.
I have come to accept that as lovable as I think I am, not everyone will like me. That is all right, it’s important that I love myself and not allow others opinion to define me. People opinions are subjective.
It’s just too easy to dislike your critics because they criticize you. You can’t go through life only hearing what you want to hear, you won’t grow in wisdom and maturity.
“If you have no critics you’ll likely have no success.” – Malcolm X
Critics are a very important part of your journey. You will not make it without them. They will help you get to your destination faster through their negative criticism; albeit painful.
You will not believe how much criticism I’ve received since I started blogging. Usually they are from someone “anonymous” and very few to my face. One of the rules I live by is “let’s agree to disagree”
How To Deal With Your Critics
- Don’t give them a platform to air their negativity – there is constructive criticism, which we can all use. There is no place for cutthroat or die-hard negative criticism on my blog.
- Do not acknowledge them publicly – It will feed their egos and make them feel important.
- Turn every negative criticism to a positive outcome. Your success is the best answer to your critics, far better than arguing with them will and they may learn a lesson or two in return.
- Never stoop to their level – no matter what. It’s very tempting, don’t take the bait!
- Save your energy – You have nothing to prove. quit trying to make them understand your point of view. You may never change their mind or sway their opinion.
- Avoid letting your emotions get the better of you if you must respond to them at all. Do not engage in the war of words with them.
- Don’t shoot the messenger – as we say in Texas – Eat the meat and spit out the bones.
- Grow thicker skin – you are going to need it. People can be cruel sometimes, surround yourself with positive people who can speak life into you with love.
- Don’t take it personal – What they say about you is a reflection of who they are.
“It is not the critic who counts: not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done better,…………. if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who knew neither victory nor defeat.” By Theodore Roosevelt
Finally, everyone is a critic and we all needs one, deal with it. It is part of human nature and is to be expected. There will always be someone to criticize you just make sure you don’t become your own worst critic
“Do not pay attention to every word people say, or you may hear your servant cursing you.
For you know in your heart that many times you yourself have cursed others”. (Eccl 7:21-22 NIV)
Question ~ How have you learnt to deal with criticism?