The No.1 Lesson I’ve Learned in 2011

The No.1 Lesson I’ve Learned in 2011.

I have learned many lessons this year but one stands out the most. I can’t get away from it; everywhere I go it keeps popping up.

The last straw was at the women fellowship I had in my house in October. Finally, I got it and received it.

I can’t help wondering, why did it take me till October to finally get it? All along it was staring me in the face though?

I know the reasons why it took that long. I got busy with life and wasn’t paying attention. The other real reason was I didn’t want to face the truth.
Towards the end of each year I take a review of the entire year. I am doing exactly that around this time now.

There are many lessons to be learned this year, if you and I have been paying attention. If you have been present and honest in your life with yourself, you must have seen at least one lesson.

Well this year is no different from the rest and one particular lesson has been staring me in the face. I can’t avoid it any longer; its voice is getting louder and louder, calling my attention to it.

I mentioned in this post that we are the biggest obstacles to our personal growth. We give too much credence to the devil and blame our friends and family unnecessary. If we are truly being honest with ourselves we can easily see that we are the one standing in our own way.

Well I have discovered this year the No.1 reason why I get my feelings hurt. I see a common thread, common denominator in my life this year.

This year I have also learnt that I am not my feelings. I learnt to recognize my ego, pride at work especially when they are bruised and to understand that I am not my feelings. If we are paying attention to our feelings and don’t allow each of them to consume us, there will be less stress, misunderstanding, and noise in our lives.

So what is the No.1 lesson I have learned this year? Read all about it in the comment section!

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About Buky

Buky is a ''Desperado after God". She is married to Adey and together they are raising 3 amazing children. She is a natural encourager, loves sharing practical experiences with others. She enjoys writing, reading, dabbling in stock trading, hanging out with friends and serving the body of Christ.


  1. The no.1 lesson I have learned this year is that
    having “unrealistic expectations of
    others is the quickest way to bitterness, resentment and ultimately swimming in
    stupor of sin”.


    Many times this year, my feelings got hurt due to
    unrealistic expectations of other people. They didn’t hurt my feelings, but I
    hurt myself because of my expectations of them were unrealistic.


    We place people in our lives on a pedestal and
    when they don’t measure up we get conflicted. Even though these people are just
    human and acting according to how human beings behave.


    I have opened myself to unnecessary pain and
    stress due to my own unrealistic expectations. This is the biggest lesson of
    2011 and I have come to see that the people in my life are not bad or out to
    hurt me but I was the one refusing to learn the lesson staring at my face.


    So I finally get it, I embrace the lesson and I
    am set free. What a relief that I wont be going into 2012 carrying unnecessary
    weight that is not needed for the journey.


    It may sound so easy and simple now but this
    lesson cost me some sleepless nights, a lot of tears and disappointment. I
    wished that it didn’t take me this long; I could have saved my tears for other
    things. We live and learn.


    Do I then go thru life without having any kind of
    expectations of people? How is that possible?


    I learned that when people show you who they are,
    believe it. Don’t try and excuse them or be blind to their true self that they
    are showing you, Believe it and you wont get hurt or have unrealistic


    The truth is everyone we are in relationship with
    is showing you by his or her ways, words, actions and deed. Who they really
    are, but we chose not to see it and we don’t want to believe the truth staring
    right back at us.


    So the next time your feelings get hurt, ask
    yourself what is it you are failing to pay attention to? What is it you need to
    learn from that experience before you become bitter and resentful?


    Our expectations should be in God and not man.
    When we take our eyes off God, we are opened to the lust of the flesh


    Walk in the Spirit and you shall not fulfill the
    lust of the flesh (Gal5:16)


    Now that you know my No.1 lesson of 2011, what is

  2. I can’t agree more. I learnt this lesson 4yrs ago and i have been living free since then. It is as if i have become immune to hurt from people’s actions, reactions, behaviour or what they said or didn’t say. It has allowed me to love and accept those around me for who they are and how uniquely God has made all of us. I’ve been drumming this revelation to my wife and your piece is a timely addition. I believe this is very spiritual. Thanks Bukky. 
    P.s by the way my wife’s name is also Bukky.

    • Timmy, thank you for taking the time to read and comment. I appreciate the feedback. Pass on my greetings to your lovely wife Buky. How do i know she is lovely? All Buky are lovely, LOL!!

    • Timmy, thank you for taking the time to read and comment. I appreciate the feedback. Pass on my greetings to your lovely wife Buky. How do i know she is lovely? All Buky are lovely, LOL!!

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