Time To Change Your Story

Your story is what you tell yourself over and over again, your inner self talks in your head. You use it to justify your actions and you continue to tell the same story again and again to anyone who cares to listen.

Everyone has a story they have been re-hashing forever. They have perfected that story and they are living it out for everyone to see. We create stories in our minds whether we recognize it or not

Isn’t it time you change your story and transform your life?

Anyone can change his or her life story today by changing  the story you tell yourself.

So what story have I been telling myself? I have become a master storyteller. My story has been perfected with such precision and I have held on to it for many years. It’s reflected in my actions and how I’ve presented myself to the world.

For many years I told myself: I am the “black sheep” of my family.
It wasn’t a name my family gave me but a title I gave to myself.

Change Your Story

In retrospect, I see why I named myself the black sheep. While growing up I was surrounded by A-students and I wasn’t doing well academically. Back then I believe if you are not book smart then your future is doomed. My environment also made me believe that; growing up in Nigeria, education is your primary way out of poverty.

Being the black sheep of the family allowed me to do whatever I like without being accountable or responsible for my actions. I told myself for years that no one expected better from me so why should I try to impress them? I lived that story for many years, convinced that was how the world view me. I made no effort to improve my behavior simply because I am the black sheep and I am going to act the way black sheep acts. I became a rebel without a cause

This was way back in my teens and the older I become I realized that we are no longer  judged based on academic performance alone. When you enter into adulthood, there are different yardstick of viewing what is true success.

Are you pursuing your passion?
If married, then are you happily married?
As parent, are you raising well-balanced children?
Family network and support
Financial stability
Healthy lifestyle.
A Christ-centered Life

These are the things that truly matter now. I can’t keep telling myself that same old story. I needed to tell and write myself a new story.

I remember clearly when the doctor discharged us from the hospital and we brought home our daughter. I was in awe that we could take this brand new baby home! Just like that my life changed, and ever since I’ve been a responsible adult, I amaze myself sometimes to be honest of how I put her needs before mine. Through tiredness and sickness I show up daily as a mother and wife.

My story has changed, I am no longer the black sheep and rebel. The truth is I was never the black sheep.

Today, tomorrow and for the rest of my life, I will be writing for myself – better stories

Time To Change The Script

You may have followed a path determined by others. You may be the A-student doing everything to please your parent or having the weight of responsibilities on your shoulders.

You may be the stay-at-home-mom who gave up her glory years to take care of the family. Now your children are grown, maybe it’s time to write a different story?

Are you the troublemaker, black sheep, and rebel? You may have gone along playing that role for years. Isn’t it time for you to re-write your life story and start living your true life?

What about you, what story have you been telling yourself that needs to be re-written?

Stop being the actor in your story when you can be the director of your life!

Change Your Story – Change Your Life

About Buky

Buky is a ''Desperado after God". She is married to Adey and together they are raising 3 amazing children. She is a natural encourager, loves sharing practical experiences with others. She enjoys writing, reading, dabbling in stock trading, hanging out with friends and serving the body of Christ.


  1. Zari Alexxanderr-Caine

    Thank you for this true gift of realisation. I am so glad that I saw and read this. So poignant.

  2. Another well written piece… from your writing it’s obvious not being an A student is now irrelevant!!! LOL!
    Who is laughing now? Not the doubters I bet.

  3. Buky…. this was so good….loved it….  mama gloria

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