Back in 2011, I wrote this post because our children didn’t have any grandparents in their lives. I grew up with a loving Grandma, I missed that for our children. Lo and behold a woman who would change our lives appeared. We have our very own Abuela (grandmother in Spanish). How I prayed specifically for someone to show up and help us with our childcare needs so that mom and dad can have a bit of “we time”. With 2 years in-between, we had 3 children under the age of 5! What was I thinking? I wasn’t thinking. Lol. I didn’t know what I was in for.
Mama Gloria came into our lives to help with childcare, and we hit it off instantly. She was warm and oozes L-O-V-E. OMG! She loves to cook, clean, pray and be silly with the kids. What’s there not to love? We attended church together, we went shopping together. She surprised the children on Grandparents day at school. She would hang out after the children were in bed and chat. We talked into the night knocking back cups of tea and biscuits; yep we were living dangerously. Sometimes we would pray together too.
When mama Gloria wasn’t with us I was thinking of ways to make her happy. I started paying attention to her likes and dislikes. And she was doing the same; she would show up with our favorite snack and just little things that meant a lot to us. We hung out, we introduced each other to new things and we also cried together because that’s what family do. Yes, mama Gloria won our hearts and she became a part of our family and vice visa. We supported each other, good times and not so good time because that is what family do.
I said all of that to say this; she brought out the loving daughter in me. I AM LOVABLE! I just don’t have a need to be loved but I have so much love to give too. God knows who we are and what we need.
You are lovable; you may have to redefine what love and family are for you. Be prepared not to settle for less than the love you deserve. Some people cannot love you; some people don’t know how to love you because they were not loved themselves.
God uses relationships to affirm His love, so don’t put God’s love in a box. At the appointed time with the right people of different race and background, God can do amazing things!
Don’t let what someone did make you stuck on your journey. Being stuck isn’t hurting them; it’s hurting you.