Buky is a ''Desperado after God". She is married to Adey and together they are raising 3 amazing children. She is a natural encourager, loves sharing practical experiences with others. She enjoys writing, reading, dabbling in stock trading, hanging out with friends and serving the body of Christ.

Does Mama Really Knows Best?

I cant help thinking that mothers cant win, whichever decision was made 10 plus years ago is coming back to hunt and bite them in the face.

My focus is mainly on “Mamas” because most of the time (not all the time) when families disengage, Mamas’ are the ones left behind to pick up the pieces.

Most times we do a very good job, other times we ourselves are just barely children needing our mama too. Children raising children, a recipe for disaster.

Hindsight is always 20 20, then it is too late. The damage is done and you can not go back and rewrite history or make right the wrongs.

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20 Signs You Are In An Abusive Relationship

Women sometimes are confused with what is classified as an abusive behavior. It is not until he physically hits you, then you realize that you are being abused. There are obvious signs along the way; you chose to ignore it, even though your friends and family can see it.

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Before “I Do” – Part 3 In-Laws

This entry is part 3 of 4 in the seriesBefore "I Do"

In-laws to most but Outlaws to a few!

Why discuss in-laws before marriage?
In-laws come with the marriage, whether you like it or not. It is like living in Texas, you do not have a choice about the sales tax, and you just pay it.

When you marry, you do not only marry that person you get the entire family. You just cannot ignore that these people exist; you are going to have a form of relationship with them. If only because it makes your partner happy knowing how important they are to him.

Deal with it, your partner did not fall from the sky, someone gave birth to him, loved him, nurtured him and he will not be the person that he is today without those people in his life. Just like you have parents that love and care for you, same goes for him too.

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Before “I Do” – Part 2 Sex

This entry is part 2 of 4 in the seriesBefore "I Do"

What kind of dance do they have in mind, is it the Tango, Waltz, Quickstep or the Paso Doble? This is the time to lay it all down, what you will and will not engage in.

Sex should be between a man and a woman, but you may be surprised to find out that your Christian FP also thinks it’s okay to bring visual aids; such as porn or making your own “home movies” into your marital bedroom. You need to know right now before you say “I Do”. We are all at different levels in our walk of faith; do not ever assume that because they are believers they do not have an obscure way of thinking.

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Before “I DO” – Part 1 Money

This entry is part 1 of 4 in the seriesBefore "I Do"

Men do not talk much as we all know; men are so very different from women (thank God!). A man may not offer to tell you some personal information that a woman would consider relevant. Therefore, what is relevant to a woman is not necessarily so to a man.

Asking the right questions will eliminate some of the confusion that will surely arise later after the wedlock.

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The Truth About Marriage Your Married Friends Are Not Telling You.

Don’t get me wrong marriage is great, i am very happy with mine, there are some truth to marriage that are not told. Most times you will only find out during divorce how miserable their relationship was, even though at the time they carried on the appearance of perfect couple!

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