Do Not Despise Your Current Season

These are the best days of your life. Do not despise your current season.
Life is altogether beautiful.

Every day is a new normal, embrace it. You cannot relive yesterday, it’s gone. Today is a new day, live it well. Life is God’s test which cannot be passed without Him. With Christ, He makes all things beautiful and possible. Don’t try to figure it all out. Take each day as it comes.

Your life may not have turned out as you wished with all the best effort and intention. Do not despise where you are today. Do not talk down to yourself. Things won’t always be this way, but you must continue to rise up every day, trusting that each day carries a lesson and a reward for perseverance.

No season lasts forever. You are due for a change. Look inwards and focus on the many lessons you’ve learned. Thank God for His amazing grace and mercy. Make gratitude the default state of your heart.

These are the best days of your life. Do not despise your current season. Life is altogether beautiful. - buky ojelabi -

God placed you in this space for a reason. Instead of resentment, surrender. There is a lot you don’t know, be still and learn. Quit fighting and surrender to Him. You don’t get it, it doesn’t make sense and that is why He’s God! His ways are not yours and it doesn’t make sense, so get with the program.

Your ability to discern the seasons of your life will lead to fulfilling your destiny.

I DO SOLEMNLY RESOLVE to embrace my current season of life and will maximize my time in it. I will resist the urge to hurry through or circumvent any portion of my journey but will live with a spirit of contentment.” ― Priscilla  Shirer

You could be in the best season of your life and not enjoy it because you have your eyes elsewhere. Be content and enjoy the blessings of God where you are now.

Yet God has made everything beautiful for its own time. He has planted eternity in the human heart, but even so, people cannot see the whole scope of God’s work from beginning to end. Ecclesiastes 3:11, NLT. 

In every season there is beauty, pain, and lessons. Enjoy the beauty before it fades.
Turn every pain into prayers. Apply the lessons learned and prevent a recurrence.

Your life is what you make of it. Someone somewhere with fewer privileges and opportunities than what you have is living their best life. 

What I know today is that: Today is the best day of my life since tomorrow is not promised. 

My prayer for you today is that The Lord will do for you things that money cannot buy and will open doors that no man can shut in your life in Jesus name. Amen!






Small Wins Are Better Than Nothing.

Many people have set lofty goals this year  they will not attempt or achieve. Start small. Keep it simple and realistic. Small wins are better than nothing.

There is power in small wins and little achievements. They are a set-up for bigger dreams, goals, and for gathering momentum.  

Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a desire fulfilled is a tree of life. Proverbs 13:12, ESV. 

Small wins are better than nothing.


Are lofty goals bad? No. Any goal which cannot be broken down into achievable bite-size steps followed by a plan and course of action would eventually backfire. 

Small wins produce hope which fuel enthusiasm to run with your God-given vision. 

May you move from being a dreamer to an achiever. May all your dreams come true. May you grow in godly wisdom, knowledge, and understanding in Jesus name. 



20 Encouraging Bible Verses While Trying To Conceive.

Dear Mom in waiting, I’ve put these Bible verses together with you in mind. I pray it will minister truth and comfort to you and may the Lord strengthen you. 

I know every woman’s journey, story, and medical issues are different. I won’t pretend to understand what you are going through, but know that God does. 

Personally, I hate waiting and I would be lying if I tell you that I enjoyed my waiting season; I didn’t. It taught me patient, humility and total dependence on God. It made me realized how much I needed God and without Him, I won’t make it. 

Now that I am a mother of 3, I am thankful for all the lessons learned and my children are worth the wait. 

20 Encouraging Bible Verses While Trying To Conceive.

1. Depend on the Lord; trust him, and he will take care of you. Psalm 37:3, NCV.

2. Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him. Psalm 37:7, NCV.

3. Isaac’s wife could not have children, so Isaac prayed to the Lord for her. The Lord heard Isaac’s prayer, and Rebekah became pregnant. Genesis 25:21, NCV.

4. He gives children to the woman who has none and makes her a happy mother. Psalms 113:9, NCV.

5. I wait for the Lord to help me, and I trust his word. Psalm 130:5, NCV.

6. Give your worries to the Lord, and he will take care of you. He will never let good people down. Psalm 55:22, NCV.

7. You will be blessed more than any other people. Every husband and wife will have children, and all your cattle will have calves. Deuteronomy 7:14, NCV.

8. So Hannah became pregnant, and in time she gave birth to a son. She named him Samuel,saying, “His name is Samuel because I asked the Lord for him.” 1 Samuel 1:20, NCV.

9. The Lord was kind to Hannah, so she became the mother of three sons and two daughters. And the boy Samuel grew up serving the Lord. 1 Samuel 2:21, NCV.

10. Then God remembered Rachel and answered her prayer, making it possible for her to have children. Genesis 30:22, NCV.

11. By faith even Sarah received the ability to have a child, though she herself was barren and past the age for having children because she believed that the one who promised was faithful. Hebrews 11:11, CEB.

12. Children are a gift from the LORD; they are a reward from him. Children born to a young man are like arrows in a warrior’s hands. How joyful is the man whose quiver is full of them! He will not be put to shame when he confronts his accusers at the city gates. – Psalm 127:3-5, NLT.

13. I will bless you and give you many children; I will keep my part of the covenant that I made with you. Leviticus 26:9, GNT.

14. And God blessed them. And God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it, and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth.” Genesis 1:28, ESV.

15. Against all hope, Abraham in hope believed and so became the father of many nations, just as it had been said to him, “So shall your offspring be.” Romans 4:18, NIV.

16. “There shall be no one miscarrying or barren in your land; I will fulfill the number of your days. Exodus 23:26, NASB.

17. For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11, NIV.

18. Your wife will be like a fruitful vine within your house; your children will be like olive shoots around your table. Psalm 128:3, ESV.

19. Don’t be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be discouraged, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will hold you up with my victorious right hand. Isaiah 41:10, NLT.

20. Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. Philippians 4:6, ESV. 

To the Mom in waiting – May the LORD visit you today. May the LORD bless you and fulfill your heart desires. May you bear fruit in every area of life.




Painful Endings.

Letting go is hard, and painful, but the pain will not kill you. For a season it may seem like you won’t ever recover, with time you will heal. As you mourn the loss, forgive and let it go. Don’t hate yourself for decisions you made which contributed to where you are today. Don’t judge yourself too harshly; you made the right decision based on the information and wisdom you had at the time.

Don’t hate others whom you invited into your life whose journey has come to an end. Be thankful for the lessons When a relationship comes to an end: don’t speak ill of them. Just pray for them. Wish them well and send them off with your blessings. Thank God for new doors. A time to weep and a time to laugh; A time to mourn and a time to dance. (Ecclesiastes 3:4, NASB)

As you transition forward, remember the lessons learned and don’t forget the good times. You are wiser and stronger now, leap into the future. Let it go: dwelling on past pain creates self-doubt, which only delays your future happiness. After the pain comes laughter. After the rain comes sunshine. Tomorrow the sun will rise, and you will smile again. You will find your rhythm and dance like never before.

Today, let go of all bitterness. Holding on to bitterness is holding you back. Forgive yourself and everybody else. Do it right now! Now is all that is guaranteed not tomorrow

If you have nothing kind and encouraging to say, keep it to yourself. Can we all agree the world has enough mean-spirited people as it is? Be the one who brings a ray of sunshine and hopes to those around you.

When the life you once had is over, you have the opportunity to embrace the new with optimism or wallow in self-pity and regrets over the past. Don’t get stuck; you can rise again. God can make a new life out of the ruins of your old life.

What I know Today: Endings are painful, but nothing leaves your life. They are life lessons learned for tomorrow. Everything happens for a reason, and whatever leaves your life is not wasted.

There comes a time, when you say “enough is enough.” I pray today is that day to put an end to your pain. Forgive and let It GO! 

We Are All A Mess!

The truth is we are all a mess! None is perfect and without sin. So, moving forward, let’s stop acting like we are since we are not. None is righteous, no, not one. Romans 3:10, ESV.

If we claim we have no sin, we are only fooling ourselves and not living in the truth. 1 John 1:8, NLT.

There is no perfect relationship. There is no perfect marriage. There is no perfect family. There is no perfect life. The world is full of broken people with wounded hearts and broken dreams trying to navigate life’s disappointment one at a time.

If life is a beautiful mess no wonder we are all messed up! Since we are imperfect beings, our love is not perfect, and at best conditional. 

Everyone is in need of God’s grace, mercy, and love not judgment and unforgiveness. May the love of God unite us above our differences.







To My Younger Self: Wait For It

WHAT I KNOW TODAY: No one can possess what belongs to you. What is yours is yours! Don’t steal, kill or destroy for what is coming your way. Wait for it.

The Lord is good to those who wait for Him, to the soul who seeks Him. Lamentations 3:25, NKJV.

There are countless of great things coming your way if only you would slow down and not fight the process of life. No matter how hard you fight it, you would eventually learn to wait for things to take their natural order. 

Wait For It

There are many mistakes you cannot afford to make, they are too costly and they will stunt and frustrate your dreams. Waiting prepares and builds character. You have everything you’ll need for the journey ahead and you are exactly where you need to be right now. And I know it doesn’t look like it today but fast forward into your future: it’s all there. Don’t allow rookie mistakes and regrets to tarnish your future. Wait for it. 




Love Wins

Love is the secret to winning any battle in this life. Whoever wins the battle of love, wins the battle of life.

love wins

One day someone will show up in your life unexpectedly and will love you for who you are, asking no questions and making no demands only to offer you, genuine love. Where in the past others may have taken you for granted, you will reap where you have not sown and loved unconditionally.

There are people like these everywhere, first, you must position your heart to receive them. Have faith and believe in the goodness of God.

May the love, kindness, and favor of God track you down, overwhelms and win you over! Amen!

Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins. 1 Peter 4:8, ESV.



My One Goal For The Year.

Over the years I’ve learned many lessons from my past failed goals. A goal is only effective when it affects every area of my life.

We tend to separate and compartmentalized our life. Wrong! You only have one life. Every area of your life affects each other, your community and the world at large.

This year I have only one goal and that is: To grow in God and press forward to His high calling for my life. 

Growing in God is growing in wisdom, knowledge, and understanding. Knowing His voice and applying His Word. To grow in love, righteousness, holiness and walk in the truth.

Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead. I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. Philippians 3:13-14, ESV.

This is a BIG goal. I can’t imagine anything else worth living and dying for. This one goal affects my life, marriage, children, community,  purpose, and everything.

Growing in God is growing in wisdom, knowledge, and understanding. Knowing His voice and applying His Word. To grow in love, righteousness, holiness and walk in the truth. To look for Christ in everything I do, in everyone I meet and in every day I’m alive. He’s the main focus for everything, otherwise, nothing is worth doing. 

Everything God does has a purpose. We must intentionally seek, ask and knock, and in return, He will give us His heart, open our eyes if we seek Him in truth.

And this is the confidence that we have toward him, that if we ask anything according to his will he hears us. And if we know that he hears us in whatever we ask, we know that we have the requests that we have asked of him. 1 John 5:14-15, ESV.

This is the year I will grow in God, pressing forward to His high calling for my life. Lord, this is my desire. Be it unto me. Amen!

Question: What one goal do you have for the year?



Guard Your heart Save Your Soul.

Dear Friends,
I am guarding my heart, eyes, ears, mouth, and relationships: they are gateways to my life and destiny. Words spoken or heard, thoughts conceived, and deeds seen make me complicit and put me in a bind.

I’m avoiding any appearances of evil before it drags me to the point of no return. If I do not reply your calls or text and don’t gather with you. Know that it’s not about you, it’s me. 

I’m saving my soul and I’m working on me. I wish us all the best as we grow in life’s journey!

Keep your heart with all diligence for out of it are the issues of life. Proverbs 4:23, AKJV.

Guarding My Heart and Soul.

Surely you know that all the food that enters the mouth goes into the stomach and then goes out of the body. But what people say with their mouths comes from the way they think; these are the things that make people unclean. Out of the mind come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual sins, stealing, lying, and speaking evil of others. Matthew 15:17-19, NCV. 




Be The Person You Want To Attract.

When you become the person you want to attract, you will know and attract the person you want to be with.

When you become the person you want to attract, you will know and attract the person you want to be with.

I hear this all the time: a good man or woman is hard to find. I disagree! They are everywhere and here is why: For everything God created is good, and nothing is to be rejected if it is received with thanksgiving. 1 Timothy 4:4.

And before you think it’s okay for her, she’s been married for 12 years and has 3 children, and life has dealt her a good hand and she doesn’t get it. Only if you knew the paths I’ve walked, they were not all paved with roses, more like thorns. I’ve been there, done that and have my share of sad stories too. 

You Attract What You Believe.
Despite all the bad news in the media and discouraging statistics regarding divorce. This much I can attest to after living on 3 continents: the world is still full of great people. But you will not find great people on your paths if you believe the world is full of wicked, evil and mean people. All you will find are the reflection of your own heart. 

Many times I hear women say “men are dogs”, men are losers and they are all the same. Are you kidding me! No wonder all they meet are the confirmation of their hearts. 

I also hear men say: “there are no good women out there”, “a good woman is hard to find”, “and all the good ones are already taken”. Seriously! Guess what: you attract what you believe in your heart and confess with your mouth.

All human beings are not the same. There are good and bad of every kind. Don’t allow your past experience to cloud your vision. When you become the love you desire, you will attract the love you deserve. 

Could it be the reason you are not attracting the one is that you are not the one or you don’t know what you want? Light attracts light and deep calls unto deep! Many times we want something we are not willing to be ourselves. Then you are unable to identify and appreciate them when they show up. 

Change Start With You.
In order to attract the one, you will need to know what the one look, feel and think like. Once you know who you are, you can identify the one. No longer will you invest your time in dead and unequally yoked relationships. 

I’m not sure had my husband met me years before we did, I may not have recognized that He was the one. I was still in the process of becoming. We are no good to anyone if we don’t know who we are. The process of discovery is ongoing and continuous through different stages in life.

Don’t settle for someone you can shack up with. Marry someone you can’t live without. 

Due to our past relationships and life experiences, we’ve become untrusting, cynical, fearful, guarded and confused. Yet, with time comes clarity, wisdom, then courage. We can rediscover who we are and what we want, then realistically we can give birth to us: something beautiful, genuine, whole and real.

Marriage is the union of two broken people being made whole through the love of Christ.

There are 7 billion people in the world and there is more than one person out there for you. Make the necessary adjustment in your heart and make room for love. You are the one in your own way and the only person who can make the change.

Work On You.
The most important job you will ever have is working on yourself. Pay attention to your life.

Live in the moment. Change as your life evolves. Knowing and working on yourself continuously is an obligation you owe to yourself.

Until you discover the real you: who is loving and worthy of love, kind, generous, considerate,  forgiving, always see the good in others and does not keep scores, you will keep attracting the opposite. 

When you become the person you want to attract, you will know and attract the person you want to be with. 

Don’t go on another date. Don’t break any more hearts, the answer you seek after is not in another person, it’s in you.

We are no good to anyone until we know who we are. We cannot love someone else until we learn to love ourselves first.






The Only Happy Marriage You Know Is Yours.

The only happy marriage you know is yours. Never compare your marriage to others, because you don’t have all the facts. 

I’ve always told my married friends: My marriage is the only happy marriage I know. I never compare my marriage to others because I don’t have all the facts. And I stand by that statement.

I know that may come across as arrogance and annoying. But hold on, lets reason together. No one really knows what goes on in other people’s life and marriage. We only know the part they choose to reveal. Sometimes, even they don’t know the entire truth except for God.

Don’t be fooled by the “so-called” perfect couple. There are no perfect marriages, only two great actors. Marriage is work!

The only happy marriage you know is yours. Never compare your marriage to others, because you don’t have all the facts. - Buky Ojelabi -

Marriage is work!
Marriage is work because men are from Mars, women are from Venus and we live in a fallen world. Marriage is like a relationship with God, it’s constantly evolving and has no room for lukewarm. 
The longer you’re married the more flaws you will notice in your spouse. It’s an opportunity to pray for them, and not to condemn. Your marriage is whatever you make of it.
Marriage is a process!
Marriage is the union of two broken people being made whole through the love of Christ. The process of two becoming ONE is an obstacle course which only the wise will survive. 
A happy marriage just doesn’t happen overnight, it takes time, prayer, patience, compromise and a lot of dying to self.
Marriage is teamwork.
A great marriage is the meeting of spirit, soul, and body knitted together in mutual love and respect. Marriage is not the problem, people are. Two people coming together insisting on having their way is a recipe for disaster. Let’s work together, serving each other in love, honor, and a whole lot of forgiveness is how we’re going to make it.
Marriage is for lovers.
Marriage is the school of love. Where else is your love walk tested daily to perfection. Marriage is an invitation to love and lay your life down for each other. As we continue to love, forgive think and believe the best of one another, together we are building intimacy and trust.
Marriage is not a game.
Don’t ignore issues, they won’t disappear, only get worse if you do. Whatever you do, don’t compare your spouse in any way to anyone, not even your parent! You will be amazed the length some couples would go, presenting a false image instead of working on their issues.


Regardless of the state of your marriage today, be hopeful, you have so much to work with to make it great and strong. Every marriage will face some challenges. You are not alone. Some of us are just better at not washing our dirty linen in public.  

So one more time: The only happy marriage you know is yours! CAPISCE?

”Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.”Ephesians 4:2, NLT. 

Dear God, Help us to live and grow together in love, wisdom and with understanding in our marriages. Always ready to forgive, covering one another with kindness, compassion, and mercy. Help us to imitate you as we follow the example of Jesus Christ and not that of this world in Jesus name. Amen!


















Happy New Year 2018

Dear friends, brothers & sister, I wish you all a happy New Year and a joyful, healthy and peaceful 2018. Thank you for being a part of our community, doing life together, lifting each other up through prayers and words of encouragement. I’m truly grateful to every one of you and I’m excited about all that God will do in our lives.

Let bygones be gone. Forgive the sins of yesterday. Embrace the hope of tomorrow.

I see you at the top. Let’s go higher in 2018. It’s not crowded at the top! Happy New Year. New Levels, New opportunities. May God’s goodness and favor follow you all the days of your life. Amen!

God does wonders that cannot be understood; He does so many miracles they cannot be counted. Job 5:9, NCV.

Expect Miracles, Signs & Wonders in 2018!

Expect Miracles, Signs & Wonders in 2018






God Will Bless Your Hustle.

When you run your race with integrity God will bless your hustle. Just You Wait. Promotion comes from God, not man and His rewards are everlasting.

A man’s gift makes room for him and brings him before great men. Proverbs 18:16, NASB.

God will bless your hustle.When you run your race with integrity God will bless your hustle.

There is no shortcut to success. Your gift, not another person’s gift – but your gift will bring you before great men. Don’t be distracted by those taking shortcuts, cheating and scamming their way to the top. There is a God in heaven who watches over the affairs of men, who is on the side of the righteous. The battles belong to Him, He will vindicate you – JUST YOU WAIT!

Wealth from get-rich-quick schemes quickly disappears; wealth from hard work grows over time. Proverbs 13:11, NLT. 

Dear Friends, Do not be in a rush to get ahead. Don’t associate with corrupt people. It is better to have a little with peace of mind; than to have a lot and be miserable. 

Better to have little, with fear for the LORD, than to have great treasure and inner turmoil. Proverbs 15:16, NLT.

They may copy, steal or take credit for your work but they will never have your mind, gift, and talent or the ability to keep creating more. 







Only God Has The Final Say.

It doesn’t matter what it looks like. It doesn’t matter what it sounds like. It doesn’t matter who says what. If it doesn’t line up with the word of God, junk it! Only God has the final say!

We may make our plans, but God has the last word. Proverbs 16:1, GNT.

The most important factor in your life is not your background, job, race, education, income, or the opinion of others. The most important factor is knowing what God says concerning you.

Only God Has The Final Say!

A little faith in God trumps all the facts against you. Believe and refuse to bow to evidence that is contrary to that which you hoped for. That which is seen has been but that which is unseen is subjected to your faith.

So also will be the word that I speak—it will not fail to do what I plan for it; it will do everything I send it to do. Isaiah 55:11, GNT.

Feelings and opinions are not facts, and they don’t move God, He’s moved by our faith in Him.


Choices Divide

Choices Divide. Deal with it. Life as a Christian sometimes requires flying solo in our choices.

In life you don’t get to sit on the fence or plead the Fifth: not making a choice is a choice. There is no middle ground or playing safe, you are either for or against and as long as you are breathing, life presents you with choices.

When your life is defined by a set of principles you won’t pander to pressure.
Let people know what you stand for.

God presents us with a very important choice. Today I ask heaven and earth to be witnesses. I am offering you life or death, blessings or curses. Now, choose life! Then you and your children may live. Deuteronomy 30:19, NCV.

choices Divide

From Genesis to Revelations, we see the impact of choices for generations. From Abraham having Ismael to Jacob stealing his birth-right and Jesus choosing to lay his life down for the sins of the world.

When you gave your life to Christ you became a marked person. You are marked by the blood of Jesus Christ. You also caught the attention of the devil. Being a friend of Christ makes you an enemy of the devil and the world. Friends of my enemy are my enemies. Your choice will bring division from your friends and family. Be Ok with that. 

Your choices matter and they carry consequences whether you know it or not. Every choices, words, and action produce an effect. Your thoughts, behaviors, and actions create specific effects that manifest and create your life as you know it. Nothing just happened!

You will never please everyone no matter how hard you try. Live to please God, not man.

Seek the face of God and his word. Do not take another decision without the leading of the Holy Spirit. Ask Him to guide you in all your ways and wait for instructions. 

Every great dream you’ll ever achieve in life starts with a DECISION. You’ll never know what you can achieve until you make that critical choice.

In life, we have to make difficult choices. The right decisions won’t always feel good. Stop basing your decision on feelings alone. Have the courage to stand by your convictions, to do the right thing and stick to itThe more you love your choices, the less you’ll need others to validate them.

Your choices and decisions today will determine your destiny tomorrow. You have the power to change your life today! Think long-term when making a decision. Your destiny is in your hands.

You have the freedom to do whatever you like, but you must also be prepared to live with the consequences of your choice. God has given you a free will, be careful what you do with it.

Don’t be afraid to make difficult choices. You are one decision away from happiness.


In this season of your life, you don’t have time for trial and error. Time wasted may never be regained.You will hit the bulls-eye!

The decision to serve God is the most important decision you will ever make. This One decision will shape the direction of your life and be more decisive in future decisions.

There are many great opportunities ahead of you, ask God for discernment in making the right decision.

In order to live a life pleasing and glorifying to God, you’ll run the risk of making others angry and upset! 

PRAYER: Lord, in my eagerness and desperation I’ve made wrong choices, forgive me and direct my heart back to you. Remove stubborn pride from my heart, help me to find my way back to you. I know nothing I’ve done can separate me from your love. I take comfort in your loving kindness and grace. Amen.

Lord, help me to see the things that you see, to hear your voice clearly today. Holy Spirit, help me to  discern the truth and make godly choices. Remove the veil from my heart and eyes so that I may listen and obey your instructions. Amen.

Question: Choices divide – Are you willing to become infamous for what your beliefs?


How Long Will You Mourn Your Disappointments?

In Samuel 16:1 God asked Samuel “How long will you mourn for Saul, seeing I have rejected him from reigning over Israel?

What about you: How long will you mourn? Think about it. List all your disappointments according to the year and do the maths.  How long more do you think you need? 

God did not rebuke Samuel for mourning over Saul, but rather for the length of time. Grieving in itself is not bad. Mourning is good for the soul, a time to cry, a time to reflect and a time to heal.

A time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance. Ecclesiastes 3:4, NIV. 

Mourning is a natural process of coming to terms with loss, pain, and regrets. Excessive grief may lead to death; fear of living, loneliness, sickness, mental breakdown and depression.

The goal of this post is not to undermine your pain, loss, suffering, heartache, and disappointment. I wrote about overcoming disappointments because I’ve overcome many through Christ Jesus who strengthened me. For many years I wore my regrets as a crutch and shame. I was miserable, in pain, denial and my life was on hold. I don’t wish that on anyone. 

The goal of this post is to make you realize that on the other side of your disappointments there’s healing and freedom.

YOU: “Buky, you don’t understand what they did to me.
ME: You’re right, I don’t. But God does, and He wants to help you bury them.

In 1 Samuel 16:2 –  And Samuel said, “How can I go? If Saul hears it, he will kill me.” The fear of what if kept Samuel in mourning. What are you afraid of? What is your what if? 

The Fear of “what if” has kept many locked up in their own self-created prison. Don’t let the fear of “what if” keep you from living and pursuing your dreams.

Lack Of Faith In God.
Disappointments are signs of a lack of faith and trust in God. You might say you love God, but do you really trust Him? If you believe Jesus is your personal savior and healer then why not trust Him with your hurt and pain. Take the focus off regrets, what they did to you, and look to Christ for your healing. Don’t you want to be set free? On the other side of your pain and disappointments is your healing.

Misplaced Faith In A Broken World
Our disappointments reveal our misplaced faith, hopes, and expectations in a broken world. We are broken people living in a broken world. Accept that everyone will disappoint you at some point in life. Be Ok with that. Know that you will disappoint everyone eventually. Be ready to forgive quickly, heal and let go.

The Past Is Gone and Done
Disappointment isn’t about the past; it’s about the present. What was done is in the past. Let go and move forward. Today is about the present. Don’t allow the past to steal, kill and destroy your life and any hope for the future God planned for you.

Choose Wholeness and Live
Mourn, cry out to God, weep, get some counseling, do whatever it takes for you to heal wholeheartedly. Don’t get stuck in life by dwelling in the past. No one can figure life out and by trying to make sense of everything will make life a living hell.

Sometimes life doesn’t make sense: bad things happen to innocent and kind people. I can’t make sense of the death of an infant, why some couple can have children and abandon them, while others fail in their efforts. 

Don’t try to understand life. Live it! Don’t try to understand love. Move into love. Then you will know – and all that knowing will come out of your experiencing. The more you know, the more you know that much remains to be known. Osho

Who Might You Be?
The past only hurt if we keep revisiting painful memories! We don’t heal because we refuse to forgive and let go of emotional wounds and without them who are we. Who are we without them?

All the apologies in the world will not heal some of us. We’ve become addicted to our diseased past instead of learning from them. We’ve given our disappointments power of attorney rather than giving them over to God. Who are you without your crutches; shame, blame, pain, and regrets? 

A Time To Heal. 

Try Again.
But the Lord said, “Take a heifer with you, and say, ‘I have come to sacrifice to the Lord.’ Then invite Jesse to the sacrifice, and I will show you what you shall do; you shall anoint for Me the one I name to you. 1 Samuel 16:3

God instructed Samuel to try again and this time His way. Take a risk, take a step into the future. Samuel tried SEVEN times before He got the right son, David, who was not present at the time. I love the fact that the bible didn’t say that Samuel got it right at his first attempt.

Before I had my youngest son, Joshua, I had two miscarriages. After the second miscarriage, I was afraid if I were to conceive again I would be full of fear and not be able to celebrate or enjoy the pregnancy. God strengthened me, and I had a healthy and joyful pregnancy. If I had not tried again, I wouldn’t have my beautiful son and a testimony to encourage others.

Forgive Yourself: The truth is we are the hardest on ourselves. Forgive yourself for being too hard, unloving, unforgiving and overly critical of yourself. Forgive yourself for blaming and hating yourself. Forgive yourself for blaming God and not trusting Him with your fear and pain. Forgive yourself for making others a scapegoat: by blaming them and making yourself a victim. 

Forgive Your Ex: We all have them; Ex-wife, husband, in-laws, fiancé, fiancée, girlfriend & boyfriend. Why stop there? Ex-business partner, employer, ex-best friend, etc.

They’ve hurt us, but we’ve learned valuable lessons from them. Let go of every attachment to past pain. Forgive and keep forgiving until you’re no longer in any pain, anger, and regret when you think about them. Stop allowing ghost from your past to steal your present joy.

As long as we hold on to negative emotions, we can’t fully embrace the hope we have in Christ Jesus, our new identity and purpose. Love in spite of rejection. Forgive in spite of past pain. Live joyfully with no regrets.

Dear God, I’m ready to put the past behind me. Lord, forgive me not trusting and accepting the gift of life. Today I choose to forgive myself and others, and I embrace your love, grace, and mercy. Thank you, God, for restoring my soul. Help me to turn my sorrow into joy, my mess into a message. Thank You, Lord, for the hope of a new future. Thank you, my Father, for saving me.

God Is Working Behind The Scenes.

Today we woke up to snow in Houston. Who knew! But seeing the joy and excitement on my children alone is well worth the freezing cold! It’s beginning to look like Christmas in Houston! Yeehaw!

snow day in Houston

The heavens declare the glory of God, and the skies announce what his
hands have made. Psalm 19:1, NCV.

 All of God’s creations are evidence that He is at work behind the scenes and we are not aware of his timing.

At times it may seem like God is silent, distant, unreachable, and all our prayers are falling on deaf ears, but his creation bears witness to Him. God is at work behind the scenes and in his time, not ours, He will do that which He has promised.

This much I know: The time is still ticking away. We are still breathing. The sun and moon rise and set daily. The snow falls and melts away. The rain falls and dries up. Every night the stars shine in the sky. The word of God is forever settled in Heaven!

In the meantime, be still, trust Him, praise him and hold on to His promises. As it snowed overnight so shall your expectation, joy, blessing, and favor break forth suddenly in Jesus name. Amen! 


Everyone Is Not Going In The Same Direction As You.

Are you questioning your direction in life: your path, career, and relationships? Are you tempted to abandon ship, settle and follow the path of least resistant? It’s Ok, we’ve all been there. It’s perfectly normal to re-evaluate your life occasionally.

What is God’s plan for you, your marriage, family, education, children, finances, relationships, and career? What dreams and visions have God put in your heart that won’t let go of you? What ideas has God-given to you to live a different lifestyle apart from the norm? These are the things you must do. That is where you will grow, flourish and shine! That is where you will come alive. 

The path of the righteous is like the morning sun, shining ever brighter till the full light of day. Proverbs 4:18, NIV. 


Your current state or position may not be dripping in honey right now while it seems like everyone else are in their season. Don’t believe everything you think or see, things are not always as they seem. When I trying to conceive, all I saw were pregnant women everywhere. These days I hardly notice them. 

The Truth

Everyone is not going in the same direction as you. Be OK with that. By sticking to your path and convictions, you’ll stand out from the crowd.

God has an exclusive path for you. Trust Him and follow His direction. There is a path named after you with everything you’ll need for the journey. Faithfulness in doing what God has called you to do is what will lead you to joy, contentment and before Kings.

Avoid Short-cuts

Keeping up with the Joneses, competing, copying and following another person’s path are shortcuts with hollow roads, paved with empty promises, regrets, painful lessons, self-hate, disappointments, and bitterness. 

You won’t go wrong when you stick to God’s plan for you. Even if you make the wrong turn and decisions, God is able to redirect you back. Remember Joseph; despite the obstacles on his path, he overcomes them all and God fulfills His promises. 

Overcome Self-doubt and Fear.

The route to your destiny is through the valley of self-doubt and fear, and may sometimes be lonely. Your path is for you alone and it will take courage in yourself to finish strong.

Don’t Believe the Lies.

That you are behind, time is running out, and you’re too old. Don’t let the enemy distract and talk you out of what is yours.There are no shortcuts to your destiny and any paths which offer an easy route is a deception.

Misery loves company and everyone has an agenda: Don’t allow friends and family to talk you out of God’s plan for your life. 


Keep exploring, keeping seeking and continue being faithful by following God’s chosen path for you.

Take your time while walking along your path, confront your fear and doubt your doubts, take in the scenery and learn the lessons. Hold on to the dreams, ideas, and vision; your due season is just around the corner. God has you here at this time for a reason and when you have been found faith, He will bless and reward you.