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“You are not the family you were born into. Your family is not the making of you, God is!” ― Buky Ojelabi
While she was alive, she never rammed the bible down my throat or preached at me. All mama did was pray, love her family, serve her community and was actively involved in her local church.
Mama was known as the peacemaker. She settled disputes in my family without taking sides. Mama’s mission was for people to know Christ, dwell in peace and love. She was a mother to everyone that needed one, to both men and women alike.
Lately my daughter has started asking about her grandparents. Each time, she has taken me by surprise and I haven’t figured what to tell her yet.
I try my very best to always tell her the truth, I realized that we need to established a relationship based on honesty even at such tender age of 4yrs. Children may be young but they are not stupid.
So why am I hesitant regarding my reply to her? We only have one living grandmother and she does not reside in America but most importantly hasn’t played an active role in our children’s lives.
Up till now it’s been ok and we do get by, our lives are busy with various other grannies from our church that genuinely love them. There is a part a grandparent plays in the lives of their children and I must admit that it is lacking in our children lives.
I cant help thinking that mothers cant win, whichever decision was made 10 plus years ago is coming back to hunt and bite them in the face.
My focus is mainly on “Mamas” because most of the time (not all the time) when families disengage, Mamas’ are the ones left behind to pick up the pieces.
Most times we do a very good job, other times we ourselves are just barely children needing our mama too. Children raising children, a recipe for disaster.
Hindsight is always 20 20, then it is too late. The damage is done and you can not go back and rewrite history or make right the wrongs.
