Singles Talk: Beware of Counterfeit

Counterfeit means fake, imitation.  Some fakes are very, very good; but it can never be an original.  If you don’t know what an original looks like then you are more likely to buy into a counterfeit.

The counterfeit I am talking about is the one most women falls for when they are waiting for “the one”.

Ladies, the waiting time is a time to learn and to seek God for His plan for your life. This time is very precious and you must be very careful not to jump into a relationship out of desperation.

Not every man can embark on this life journey with you. It will take someone special and unique. If that is the case, then you deserve to take the time and chose wisely.

There are men and women out there masquerading themselves as the “one”. Whereas they are not the one for you, maybe for someone else!

Give people time to show you who they really are. Every actor will eventually come out of character.

Getting involved with the wrong relationship will take you to hell and back. It will take you off-course and out of the will of God.  Many are paying the price; stuck in a dead marriage with someone who does not share their core values or beliefs. If we do diligent and seek Him first there won’t be as much divorces especially in the body of Christ (Christiandom).

Anyone can make this mistake, regardless of how spiritual or street savvy you may be.  Be careful not to set up home with the “counterfeit”.

The devil will always try to throw you off your destiny if you don’t know exactly what you are looking for.  The devil is the original counterfeit –masquerading as an angel of light. That is why it is important to depend on God for directions and in all your decisions.

The difference between your helpmate and a counterfeit will be known thru prayer and discernment not FEELINGS

Sometimes a counterfeit even looks better than an original. It’s often loud, slick and shiny. Whereas the “one”, original sits quietly not shouting out his/her own praise. We shouldn’t fall for the lust of the eyes; pay more attention to your beliefs, core values and deal-breaker.

How To Spot A Counterfeit

  • Its does not line up with the word of God.
  • Its tries too hard
  • Its boastful of self
  • It doesn’t not align with your core values
  • It sounds too good to be true
  • It offers you substance but not value and proof.
  • It is too ambiguous.
  • Your friends and family are not in agreement
  • He loves you more than God
  •  It’s all about self not God or you.
  • Just because he’s showering you with gift now, doesn’t mean you wont help pay for it later.
  • They are  are not open on serious issues
  •  Inconsistency in their words and beliefs
  •  Confusion – no peace. God is not the author of confusion.
  •  He enjoys worldly activities more than godly

Surround yourself with godly counsel and seek advises from those that are happily married. When you do meet the “one”. Resist the urge to rush to the altar and always trust your instincts.

Remember that an engagement can always be broken but a divorce record is for life!

About Buky

Buky is a ''Desperado after God". She is married to Adey and together they are raising 3 amazing children. She is a natural encourager, loves sharing practical experiences with others. She enjoys writing, reading, dabbling in stock trading, hanging out with friends and serving the body of Christ.


  1. Right words, right timing. Thank you for sharing this.

  2. Word…….

  3. True about the counterfeit being shiny and attractive. Gosh! it takes grace not to settle for lees than one deserves.

  4. WOW!!!!!! this is one reason I love this space.. you give the tips and they are spot on..Thanks for sharing

    P.s How can I get your newsfeed on bloggers? I have missed alot of update

  5. this is true, from experience

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