Overcoming Life’s Disappointments.

Dear friends, it seems like just yesterday when I was unashamedly desperate to get married and have babies. I know the pain of waiting to be found by my Boaz. Learning to celebrate others while I wait for my turn. Learning to overcome life’s disappointments is the route to contentment and maturity.

You can choose to focus on your disappointments or your blessings
but you can’t have both.

Disappointments are a part of life, they happen to everyone and they are painful. This is one of the things we all have in common.

Marriage: how do you navigate a relationship where you feel miserable, alone, and unloved? Even after you’ve both read The 5 Love Languages. How do you continue to love and honor someone who isn’t fulfilling his or her part? How?

Parental Rejection: How do you overcome the rejection from a parent? Having done all you know to do, but never good enough, never measure up. While trying to Honor your parents so that your day be long. How can we work together?

Education: Many have invested years in education with the promise of a high income only to discover the opposite. Many have also come to realize that their calling is different from what they studied. And the student loan debt fiasco is a constant reminder of the unfulfilled dreams they now have to pay for. How do you not look back in anger and regret?

Relationship With God: When I gave my life to Christ, I was told my life would change for the better and I will be very blessed. Many of us interpreted that to be many things. I used to believe that all good things are from God and all bad things are from the devil. I was told that all I had to do was give my tithes and offerings and God will bless me abundantly. And as an immature and lazy believer, I believed this but my bible says differently. How do you overcome the reality of your walk with God?

Relationships With Fellow Christians: Dealing with fellow believers can sometimes be our thorn in the flesh. How do you face attending a church where your fellow believer refuses to bury the hatchet? How?

The lists are endless. We can go on and on, but the pain of disappointments is real.

10 Ways You Can Overcome Life’s Disappointments.

  • Acknowledgment: Acknowledging your disappointments is the first step to healing and freedom. Be honest with yourself. Get it out in the open. Life Sucks! This isn’t heaven. Our world is broken. Our relationships are broken. We are disappointed in one another. Our expectations have been dashed. And until we address our disappointments, uncover our wounds, reveal our pains – we’ll continue to get sick, bitter and twisted.
  • Invite God Into Your Disappointments. Invite God into your situation and He will give you the right perspective.
  • Understand Your Season. Knowing your season brings clarity and helps in managing expectations.
  • Learn From Your Disappointments. Until you turn your pain into gain, it will continue to haunt you. It will continue to show up in different areas of your life and relationships.
  • Disown Your Disappointments. Refer to them in the past tense. Your words are powerful; use them to transform your life.
  • Comparison: Love Yourself and don’t compare yourself to others. Loving yourself frees you to be you and accept others for who they are. Be the kindest, nicest, happiest and the most caring and loving version of yourself. Follow your own path.
  • Forgive Yourself and Others. The only person you’ve hurt the most is yourself. Unforgiveness is holding on to pain against self. Forgiving others is forgiving you. You have no business of being in relationships with someone you won’t forgive. It’s been said that “unforgiveness is like drinking poison and hoping it affects someone else”. Forgive, just as Christ has forgiven you.
  • Stop Blaming and Judging Others – Stop playing the victim. Once you are over 21, you are a bona fide adult. Blaming others make you look small and keeps you stuck in the rot. We are not fit to judge anyone. Look at the mess we’ve made of our lives? No one is fit to judge you. No one! We’ve all sinned. No one is without sin. No one! Can a sinner judge another? God is the ultimate Judge!
  • Mind Your Own Business – Remove the log from your own eyes. Knowing and learning how to love yourself is your business.
  • Be The Change: I can’t think of a better way to overcome life’s disappointments than to become who you’ve always wanted to be.

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About Buky

Buky is a ''Desperado after God". She is married to Adey and together they are raising 3 amazing children. She is a natural encourager, loves sharing practical experiences with others. She enjoys writing, reading, dabbling in stock trading, hanging out with friends and serving the body of Christ.


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