The only happy marriage you know is yours. Never compare your marriage to others, because you don’t have all the facts.
I’ve always told my married friends: My marriage is the only happy marriage I know. I never compare my marriage to others because I don’t have all the facts. And I stand by that statement.
I know that may come across as arrogance and annoying. But hold on, let’s reason together. No one really knows what goes on in other people’s life and marriage. We only know the part they choose to reveal. Sometimes, even they don’t know the entire truth except for God.
Don’t be fooled by the “so-called” perfect couple. There are no perfect marriages, only two great actors. Marriage is work!
Marriage is work!
Marriage is work because men are from Mars, women are from Venus and we live in a fallen world. Marriage is like a relationship with God, it’s constantly evolving and has no room for lukewarmness.
The longer you are married, the more flaws in your spouse become noticeable and perhaps irritating. It’s an opportunity to show empathy. Your marriage is whatever you make of it.
Marriage is a process!
Marriage is the union of two broken people being made whole through the love of Christ. The process of two becoming ONE is an obstacle course which only the wise will survive. A happy marriage just doesn’t happen overnight, it takes time, prayer, patience, compromise, and a lot of dying to self.
Marriage is teamwork.
A great marriage is the meeting of spirit, soul, and body knitted together in mutual love and respect. Marriage is not the problem, people are. Two people coming together insisting on having their way is a recipe for disaster. Let’s work together, serving each other in love, honor, and a whole lot of forgiveness is how we’re going to make it.
Marriage is for lovers.
Marriage is the school of love. Where else is your love walk tested daily to perfection. Marriage is an invitation to love and lay your life down for each other. As we continue to love, forgive, grow and believe the best of one another, together we are building intimacy and trust.
Marriage is not a game.
Don’t ignore issues, they won’t disappear, things would only get worse if you do. It’s mindblowing the length some couples would go presenting a false image instead of working on their issues. Whatever you do, don’t compare your spouse in any way to anyone, not even your parent!
Regardless of the state of your marriage today, be hopeful. Every marriage will face some challenges. You are not alone. Some of us are just better at not washing our dirty linen in public.
One more time: The only happy marriage you know is yours! CAPISCE?
”Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.”Ephesians 4:2, NLT.
Dear God, Help us to grow together in love, wisdom, and understanding in our marriages. Always ready to forgive, covering one another with kindness, compassion, and mercy. Help us to imitate you as we follow the example of Jesus Christ and not of this world in Jesus’ name. Amen!