Buky is a ''Desperado after God". She is married to Adey and together they are raising 3 amazing children. She is a natural encourager & she loves to share practical experiences with others. She enjoys writing, reading, dabbling in stock trading, hanging out with friends and serving the body of Christ.

The 15 Lessons I’ve Learned In 5 years Of Marriage

1. Honor

Honoring my husband is important. What matters to women and men are so different. Men want honor and respect above sex and cooking. Sex and cooking are important but they can’t live on that 24/7. What will eventually keep him coming home every day is honor and respect.

I am not perfect in these areas but I am learning fast and seeing great results. In every man; there is a king and a fool. Whose response do you want? Who are you speaking to? If you speak to the king in him, not only do you get the king’s response, you get his rewards too.

This I have learnt, practiced and seen great result. So every time I open my big mouth I ask myself who am I addressing and what do I hope to achieve?

You can get all from your husband without nagging, manipulations, without holding sex or not cooking for him, etc.

Just by choosing to honor him daily, especially when you don’t think he deserve honor, so to speak. I learnt this from my husband; he apologizes to me when I know am wrong! This convicts me more than anything.

We don’t honor our husband because he deserves it, we do it unto the Lord, and He is the greatest rewarder of all.

Continue reading

Adey, My Joy And Crown

It is exactly 5 years ago that you took me to be your bride. These past 5 years have been a blessing with you and our children. There is not one day have I ever regretted marrying you.

Adey means “ The Crown”, you have been my joy and crown. (Phil4:1)

You have been to me, what Abraham was to Sarah, my lord (Gen18:12). You are gentle, kind, considerate, loving and have no bad words to say about anybody.

You are still the man that I fell in love with 5 years ago, and baby you get better and more handsome by the day. You are like a bottle of wine, the older you are the sweeter you get.

A week before we were schedule to get married. We had some major setback. Somebody gave a very damaging report about me of which you and the officiating minister for our wedding were informed of. The information was so damaging, honestly I won’t have gone ahead and marry me too.

Continue reading

Get Desperate With God And Get MARRIED.

So I was at a stage in my life that I had everything else going for me except for one thing. Marriage. I was in my mid-30’s and that was the only thing missing from my life. I didn’t want another career or another weight loss idea. I didn’t need a manicure, a pedicure, or a designer bag. I didn’t want another expensive holiday. Not even more money could fill that yearning that I had to be married and have children.

When you are ready, you know it. You no longer feel like hanging with your single friends. Yet at the same time you feel out of place when you’re your married friends.

You start wondering, “What else is there to do that I haven’t done before?” You don’t want to go clubbing. You’re tired of being the only friend that’s being set up with another single brother.

You know that he is out there but don’t have a clue how to go about finding him. Well that was me six years ago. If this sounds like you KEEP READING.

Continue reading

No More Cleavage In The House Of God

If we call ourselves Christians, shouldn’t we act like one? Christian means to be Christ-like. Are you truly portraying Christ in the way you dress?

The line that once distinguished Christians from non Christians has become severely blurred.

Continue reading

Here Is To You, Sister Dearest.

Sister Dearest

Growing up together we were never close. She and I were like night and day. She was the straight A student and I was not. She was the perfect daughter who would always abide by our parents’ rules and regulations. I did not.

She never rebelled. I did. I almost never heard her curse while we were growing up. I did curse her out a lot and she gave me some of the best beatings of my life!!! Ouch! She didn’t talk much back then. She used one-liners, like “Stop it or I will whoop you.” Of course I didn’t listen. So she bashed me over the head. I just thought she was jealous and miserable. True, there was a lot to be jealous of. I was a spoiled little brat, I had a big mouth on me, I was rude and disrespectful, and I was doing badly at school. Yeah, I can see why she was so envious. NOT

Continue reading

Does Mama Really Knows Best?

I cant help thinking that mothers cant win, whichever decision was made 10 plus years ago is coming back to hunt and bite them in the face.

My focus is mainly on “Mamas” because most of the time (not all the time) when families disengage, Mamas’ are the ones left behind to pick up the pieces.

Most times we do a very good job, other times we ourselves are just barely children needing our mama too. Children raising children, a recipe for disaster.

Hindsight is always 20 20, then it is too late. The damage is done and you can not go back and rewrite history or make right the wrongs.

Continue reading

20 Signs You Are In An Abusive Relationship

Women sometimes are confused with what is classified as an abusive behavior. It is not until he physically hits you, then you realize that you are being abused. There are obvious signs along the way; you chose to ignore it, even though your friends and family can see it.

Continue reading

Submission

“For women at times, we don’t want to hear another sermon on submission. I don’t have issues with that topic at all; I learnt years ago that you cannot submit to a man until you submit to God first”

Continue reading

Before “I Do” – Part 3 In-Laws

This entry is part 3 of 4 in the seriesBefore "I Do"

In-laws to most but Outlaws to a few!

Why discuss in-laws before marriage?
In-laws come with the marriage, whether you like it or not. It is like living in Texas, you do not have a choice about the sales tax, and you just pay it.

When you marry, you do not only marry that person you get the entire family. You just cannot ignore that these people exist; you are going to have a form of relationship with them. If only because it makes your partner happy knowing how important they are to him.

Deal with it, your partner did not fall from the sky, someone gave birth to him, loved him, nurtured him and he will not be the person that he is today without those people in his life. Just like you have parents that love and care for you, same goes for him too.

Continue reading

Before “I Do” – Part 2 Sex

This entry is part 2 of 4 in the seriesBefore "I Do"

What kind of dance do they have in mind, is it the Tango, Waltz, Quickstep or the Paso Doble? This is the time to lay it all down, what you will and will not engage in.

Sex should be between a man and a woman, but you may be surprised to find out that your Christian FP also thinks it’s okay to bring visual aids; such as porn or making your own “home movies” into your marital bedroom. You need to know right now before you say “I Do”. We are all at different levels in our walk of faith; do not ever assume that because they are believers they do not have an obscure way of thinking.

Continue reading

Before “I DO” – Part 1 Money

This entry is part 1 of 4 in the seriesBefore "I Do"

Men do not talk much as we all know; men are so very different from women (thank God!). A man may not offer to tell you some personal information that a woman would consider relevant. Therefore, what is relevant to a woman is not necessarily so to a man.

Asking the right questions will eliminate some of the confusion that will surely arise later after the wedlock.

Continue reading

SOS:Calling All Stay-At-Home-Mom

Most people have gifts and talents that you probably think is just a hobby and you might think you probably can’t get paid for what you love to do but it can be used to earn an income.

Ask yourself what service can I provide to people? What do people need.What problem can I solve for others.

Continue reading

Planted and flourishing in the Church

The churches are learning to do business and keep our talents in-house, we have churches producing and recording their own home grown artist, record labels, publishing books, writing and producing films.

Gone are the days of selling out in order to pursue your God given talent. You can still use your talent to lift up His name and still keep it real.

Continue reading

Who do you say that I am?

Many people have different interpretation of God. What God is to me may be different from you. No one have a corner on God and He won’t be put in a box

Continue reading

2010 – The Year Of "DOING IT"

Enough is enough, its time to grow up and be an adult. There will always be something that prevent us from achieving our goals if we let it. I do understand that lives is about seasons and you should know what seasons you are in so that you can set realistic goals.

Continue reading

I Finally Caught The Mission Bug.

For as long as I have been around church folks, attending churches and being a Christian, It wasn’t until 2006 that I finally caught it.
I am excited and looking forward to my first mission trip. I don’t have one planned yet but I know it’s only a matter of time.

Continue reading

Why Do You Forgive?

There are so many reasons why it is good to forgive, regardless of what the other person have done to us. Mine is purely for selfish reason!

Continue reading

The Truth About Marriage Your Married Friends Are Not Telling You.

Don’t get me wrong marriage is great, i am very happy with mine, there are some truth to marriage that are not told. Most times you will only find out during divorce how miserable their relationship was, even though at the time they carried on the appearance of perfect couple!

Continue reading

Joseph, The Forgotten.

Even though this story is 2000 years old, it’s a story that a lot of people can relate to. With the exception that it’s not an immaculate conception

Continue reading