Buky is a ''Desperado after God". She is married to Adey and together they are raising 3 amazing children. She is a natural encourager, loves sharing practical experiences with others. She enjoys writing, reading, dabbling in stock trading, hanging out with friends and serving the body of Christ.

Mentorship ~ Part 1

This entry is part 1 of 2 in the seriesMentorship

The world is full of mentors, just look around you.

I didn’t always have the wisdom to recognize them nor had the humility to learn from them. Everyone has a measure of pride, stubbornness or arrogance. I had my fair share of them too.

Whose voice inspires you? Whose voice are you listening to? Whose voice is going to make the difference in your life in 2011? It is up to you.

Mentors are very vital to achieving our life’s dream. You will never reach your dream without a mentor in your life. Without them we won’t get to enjoy the journey talk less of getting there.

A mentor is someone that has walked the path you are about to embark on and they can hold you accountable to achieving what you set out to.

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Relationship Deal Breakers

Relationship deal breakers list are simply a list of things you wont put up with. It’s that simple; know the things you are willing to compromise on and those that are “non-negotiable.

Deal breakers are major difference in values and beliefs, red flags. They are boundary that people ought to set for themselves because they know that falling in love can make them do crazy things.

The whole essence of dating is getting to know each other intimately. Use this time to find out more about them, their religious beliefs, family background, past relationship, core and moral beliefs etc

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Singles Talk: The List Part 2

This entry is part 2 of 2 in the seriesThe List

While I understand that making a list is not for everyone, I am a detail-oriented person. Everyone must find what works for them and still commit it into God’s hands.

It’s also important to point out that you must be realistic and honest with thyself. You expectations must be realistic and not a fantasy. Your expectations must align with the future you envisioned in your mind and can see thru the eye of faith.

A few good men fell by this list, they were not bad guys but they were not the one for me. Having my list and others experienced married women in my life helped me to stay focused. For by wise counsel you shall make your war: and in multitude of counsellors there is safety Pro 24:6

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Singles Talk: The List

This entry is part 1 of 2 in the seriesThe List

I recently came across a program on VHI called “What Chilli Wants”. What Chilli Wants is an American reality series on VH1 starring Chilli, one-third of the Grammy Award-winning R&B trio TLC. The show chronicles Chilli’s quest to find love with the help of Tionna T. Smalls, an author and relationship coach.

She is also a single mom and in her 30’s. I have watched some episodes and I find it quite interesting and entertaining. Everyone seems to be giving Chilli a hard time for having a list.

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No Valentine Here

I am not big on Valentine’s Day but I like having my husband around all the time.

While like many others, I am missing my husband. I can’t help but spare a thought for others that are struggling around this time.

My thoughts are with all our military families who are separated from their husbands and wives defending our country. May God’s protection be with you and I pray for your safe return home.

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Happy 1 year Anniversary Bukville!

Hello Everyone!

Bukville is ONE-year-old, wow! How time flies when you are having fun and pursuing your passion.

It seems like just yesterday when I was struggling to make sense of what blogging is all about? Deciding between Wordpress and Blogger, and how to set up a Wordpress blog.

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Shine! It’s Your Time To Shine.

I came across a blog days ago and it just refreshes my soul and also reminded me of a promise I made to myself in 2007 to give myself the permission to SHINE.

We all need a little reminder from time to time, and since reading the blog, I have been reflecting all over again about that promise.

As a child, my mum told me that I was never shy at all. I am the last child that had to be dragged away from the school play kicking and screaming. I was the little girl that hugs the limelight at another’s child birthday party, which you would almost mistake for the celebrant.

Life happens and after one knock and several more, you start to shy away from your real self. Words spoken by others in anger can also crush us to the core. We refuse to take a leading role in our own lives and start playing the supportive role instead.

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Comfort Zone – Leaving it behind

London was more than a place of residence, it was my home. London represented my journey to being a woman. I had my first job and paycheck in London, I became a responsible daughter sending money to my mother in Nigeria. I gained my freedom in London, I rented my first room, then my first apartment and later I bought my very first home.

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A Letter To My Past

We have been friends long enough.
Today, I have made a decision that we can no longer be friends
Your friendship has become a pain I can no longer bear
Your company is suffocating to me
You have held me back long enough and today it ends
Though you pretend to be a friend
You were also my oppressor and my prison

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The Past – Dealing With The Past

One of the weapons that the enemy uses against most of us is our past. He knows that you are likely to loose focus, become weak, depressed and distracted when your past is brought up. So he keeps bringing it up; just when you think you have dealt with it and overcome. It comes up again and again; remember he is an accuser of the brethren.

Have you found that he uses people in your life to bring up your past? Well meaning Christians, friends or family who know your intimate past will throw it at you with the intent to hurt you when you have a fall out!

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Its My Day.

It’s my birthday today and I feel younger than ever. I woke up to text messages from my brother Diran and Shade, how nice and thoughtful.

I have everything I ever wanted; God in our lives, Adey, the children, being pregnant and absolute joy and peace in my life. Money can’t buy any of those things.

I was serenade with a special rendition of “happy birthday mom’’. Hahah how sweet, well done guys! I got presents too; a Balenciaga perfume and a house slipper. I can’t decide which one I love the most. I didn’t own a house slipper I usually wear Adey’s. My perfumes smells lovely, thank you babe.

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First Things First

Welcome to 2011, I am excited and can’t wait to dive into all of God’s goodness for this year. It is the dawn of a New Year, so many decisions and choices ahead.

There is so much to accomplish and overcome this year. I don’t know about you, as for us we are going to be busy!

Juggling 2 toddlers and another arrival on the way, it’s almost here now. We are in the last trimester and we are so excited to smell the new life that Almighty God is entrusting unto us.

I am ready to run the race that is set before me and I am going to finish strong. I am not ignorant of the devices of the enemy and I hope you are not too.

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Are You Ready For 2011?

As I was looking back on the vision set for 2010, I remember starting Bukville. I was scared and not too sure of myself but I have some really great people that truly believed in me.

Kim Dixx was my Life Coach. She is a great coach too and really played a vital role in the birth of Bukville. Thank you Ms Kim for having faith in me and for your wonder advice and encouragement.

Until I met Kim Dixx I didn’t really have an appreciation of what Life Coaching is all about. Ms Kim is awesome and simply the best.

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Chaperone Anyone?

So imagine my surprise on our first date when I was informed that there will be a friend coming along? A friend coming along with us on our first date I thought, what for?

Alright to those of you in the Christian-Dom, you might not find this strange. But I was coming from the world so bear with me. We do things differently and this was all too new to me.

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Pregnancy – Helpful Tips While Waiting On God To Conceive.

These are helpful tips to help you get through those tough times while you wait on God for your precious babies.

Whether you chose to go thru the IVF, Natural or Adoption route you still need God’s guidance and agreement with your husband.
Children are a blessing and they will bring you a lot of joy and sleepless nights, lol.

Wives let us not forget that our husbands are hurting too, they don’t show it but they feel our pain and are struggling because they can’t fix this. They are the silent warriors that are often pushed to the side. Don’t forget to minister to him too. If you don’t, someone else might help ya!

Savings – Use this time wisely to have a healthy bank account, you sure will need it. Having a first child can turn you into a fashionista. You have waited this long for a child, who cares about the cost? You will have to keep your head cool and not spend it all at once.

Learn a new hobby or craft – I took up bead making and sewing, I was absolutely crappy at them both, lol. I still have my sewing machine to remind me today!

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Everyone is Pregnant except ME – Part 2.

This entry is part 2 of 2 in the seriesEveryone Is Pregnant

On the issues of past mistakes, deal with it and let it be settled once and forever. It is under the blood, as far as the east is from the west. That is how far God never remember our sinful past. Learn to forgive yourself, it is so easy for us to forgive others but we struggle in forgiving ourselves.

I will never forget the very night that everything changed for me. I had enough of it all, the sadness, the crying, and the begging. From all the pain and shame that I had felt and endured, I cried out to God. Saying, “Give me a child, don’t give me a child; I am going to serve you all the days of my life.

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